How your new life goes will depend a great
deal on building the right kind of support
group of new friends. Your selection of these
friends will be the biggest determinate of the direction your
new life takes and your overall success and happiness.
You
lost not only your spouse, but a whole big support system of married friends when you
moved over to Singletopia.
You may now have erroneously concluded
that you need to find one
super person to fill all these needs that have become readily
apparent since you became suddenly single.
The main key for you to adjust to
single life is to develop a large group of well adjusted
strong single friends. A Supportive Singles family.
Not one big all encompassing "fill all my needs"
relationship.
Right now you need many different people to serve many
different needs as a growing and thriving single person.
You
will grow more as a person as a result of and through this new
network of single friends in the next 6 months than you did
in your previous 10 years.
Up until this major change in your
life you had primarily friends approved by
either your parents or your spouse.
As a single, you develop many friends from
both of the two major sexes and this time they are all of your
choosing. That's right. This time you can and do develop close
personal friends of both sexes.
What you are doing now is developing a
security blanket, a singles family of unmarrieds, many of
whom are several pages ahead of you in starting a great
new life on their own. Single adults that are functioning
happily as single captains of their own fate.
You will become like this network of new
single friends. Choose, nourish, and build this network with
great care.
The direction and success of the rest
of your life depends on it. As much as 90% of the good things
and changes that will happen in your life ahead will be as a
direct result of this support system of single friends.
* New articles on building this all important
network of of new single friends appears in new issues of our
singles newspapers, online editions, archives and as part of
several of the series.
