Love is a whole group of attitudes, ideas, ideals and emotions and includes sex as one part.
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Sex by itself is a biological drive, a function of the body and is
controlled by what a person believes, or is preprogrammed with as a
philosophy of life.
Sex normally is considered what you can GET from others. Love, on the other hand, is putting another's well-being ahead of your own, sacrificing to put their welfare and happiness as number one.
What you can GIVE.
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Love is centered, in the other person, sex is self-centered normally.
Love involves what you can give others ......................... sex is what you can get from others.
Sex without love is normally then, somewhat selfish, with lack of consideration.
When you learn to be loving or a great lover in a sexual relationship you have learned to be more concerned with and derive as much or more satisfaction from giving satisfaction as you do from getting self satisfaction.
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When you have succeeded in turning your sex relationships
from a getting situation........................ to a giving great
pleasure and satisfaction situation, you have taken the big step.
Masters and Johnson stated that you have to learn to give, to get.
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To me, this means for you to get the ultimate satisfaction what you
give becomes more important than what you get.
It is no longer a sex relationship,.......................... it is a loving relationship.
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This is the solely sex-oriented attitude. The love attitude is how can I make things better for my partner.
It is like learning to play a violin, you derive some pleasure from the music you make, true, but the great pleasure is being able to make that violin come alive and make that violin give forth that beautiful music.
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A great artist will most certainly deserve and obtain an extraordinary violin to make music with.
It will become necessary in order to become a genuine loving person, not a
selfish individual concerned with your own pleasures, to become more
giving in your other facets of your relationship too.
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Physical sexual gratification can be obtained without having
love involved.
Sex as part of a loving, giving
relationship where you both CARE about the other's gratification
physically and emotionally, is something much more meaningful and
satisfying.
Part of this learning to be a giving person in a sexual relationship is learning how to master the art.
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Some study of good information of the subject and some practice
to make it subconscious.
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Perfection will take some time. Communication on an honest and
uninhibited basis will be necessary from your partner for perfection.
The big step is self-motivation to make the necessary effort to learn and to continually work at developing a sensual sexual awareness that responds with pleasure to your partner's needs and delights. .
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Many feel that women give sex to get
love and the male animal gives love to get sex.
The truly sexually "liberated" woman today is now finding that with physical development and practice, with un-conditioning, reprogramming of a "nice woman doesn't enjoy sex" to "sex is the greatest joy", she is potentially able to get more from sex than the male.
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This often requires a true
awakening of hidden potentials.
Love and sex are interconnected.
Sexual desire is an important part of falling in love.
Today even though sexual values are changing and partners may or may not marry, people tend to fall in love to insure they will always have a sex partner according to a New York professor of psychiatry.
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Falling in love and marrying have represented for most people, he feels,
the traditional way of satisfying sexual desires in a socially and
personally acceptable way.
The psychiatrist, Dr. Al Rifkin says that to fall in love there must be a. mutual attraction, similarity in tastes and backgrounds and adaptability to each others differences.
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A big factor in falling in love
he states is the need for companionship and the hidden hunger for
closeness.
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is far more limited than the female.
Quite often he doesn't even know that his actions have a direct bearing on whether his partner develops any satisfaction from the relationship. He may have been married 20 years and his wife received little satisfaction from the sexual relationship.
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Neither she nor anybody else has ever told him otherwise.
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How is he to know unless somebody
tells him?
Everything is becoming easy to talk about in media such as this
newspaper and web site, but sexual communication between lovers has
advanced little from the "nice people don't talk about that sort of
thing" or "if I say anything derogatory they will be absolutely
crushed so I must put up with this to spare their feelings."
Yes,......................we can now talk about love
and sex as an important part of a total loving relationship.
Knowledge and mastering of the art of love does not make you a promiscuous
sexual technician. It can lead to a beautiful - gratifying relationship
for a lifetime, for both you and your partner. As a single in this day and age, your question might be, do singles
expect sex in a relationship?
It has advanced to the point now that the single
woman on a date with a man that doesn't make sexual approaches, wonders
if there isn't something wrong with him. The magazine "Marriage and Divorce " has an article entitled,
"Liberated Sex, the Rise and Fall of Male Potency."
It starts out with a line about a man that suggests they sleep together
for the first time. "Your place or mine?" is the eager response.
"If you're going to hassle about it, let's forget the whole
thing" he retorts angrily.
Openness,
a willingness to exchange ideas, feelings, and desires are
necessary.
Most expect it as a part of a total relationship and counselors and
singles inform me that most are involved in some type of sexual
relationship.
Yes, Mr. or Ms. Single, things have changed - sex has been there all the
time...only now we can talk about it.
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