Cheating is never a good idea: here’s why it will make your life difficult
Is your relationship going badly, feeling imprisoned in something bigger than you? Do you lack attention from your partner and think you have every right to go look elsewhere for it?
Do you love your partner but have also found yourself carrying on a clandestine affair and think you can handle it without hurting anyone?
You have been together for many years and for the first time in a long time someone has made your heart flutter again, but it is not your partner?
Whatever your situation, cheating is never a good idea-not only because you would jeopardize your relationship, but also because you would end up complicating your life even further yourself.
We explain why.
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It is never just about you
Betrayal ends up triggering chain reactions that hurt everyone around you, no matter whether or not you manage to keep it secret, it still creates estrangements, silences, misunderstandings.
If it goes well for you it will hurt you and the person involved in the betrayal, if it comes to the surface, on the other hand, it will allergize like wildfire on the people who love you.
Especially if they covered up by lying for you-but also if on the contrary if they felt compelled to warn your partner because of bonds of friendship with them.
Everyone will take a stand and probably end up taking sides against you, are you really ready to deal with that?
Your partner always notices that something is missing
You can deny it to death, leak nothing, destroy all your traces but eventually those who have been with you for so long will end up feeling that something has changed and will change in turn.
He will become suspicious, realize that something about you is eluding him, lose his trust and begin to think he is paranoid whenever you deny and throw the blame on him.
Isn’t it better to admit that a story is over or deal with the problems instead of driving someone you have loved crazy like this?
It’s more complicated than you think
Maintaining two relationships simultaneously can seem very exciting at first, the fear of being found out, the attraction to the forbidden, all of which will initially bind you inextricably with your lover, but then come the lies, many lies.
The ones that you will be forced to tell your partner but also the ones that you will have to tell your lover because at some point you don’t want to lose him or her either, and the ones that you will tell yourself in order not to get out of this vicious circle, until all these lies become something unbearable to carry on your shoulders.
You will have to deal with the guilt
In the evening when you come home you will sleep with your partner and have to pretend that everything is normal.
Even those who say they don’t suffer from guilt will end up not being able to sleep well or give it up to their partner more often because they feel they are at a disadvantage.
These are all unconscious mechanisms but feeling like the bad one in the couple will certainly not make you happier and breaking up does not automatically become easier, quite the contrary.
There comes a time when the other wants more
If you carry on a parallel relationship and if your lover is not in a relationship there always comes a time when he wants more.
What does he want? You.
You may not necessarily be ready to decide to leave your partner, and you may not necessarily really want to.
Of one thing, however, you will have to be aware that the rejected person is capable of anything, he might tell the truth to your partner or take revenge in some other way, nothing good in short.
Clandestine relationships do not work.In real life
The thrill of the forbidden makes everything easier, everything more attractive, then in everyday life it’s harder to make it work.
Also someone may attract you to death for certain purposes but then as a mate they may be the wrong person in the world for you.
Result? At some point the doubts will never stop torturing you and you will never be certain about the decisions you are making, you will end up never feeling clear-headed or in control of yourself.
Is it worth it?
You will end up arguing much more often
If misunderstandings existed in your relationship before, now the misunderstandings will be multiplied to the nth degree.
If at first a betrayal brings some euphoria and seems to free you from a burden after a while it makes you even more impatient, you can’t stand anything and feel entitled to have to make up for some shortcomings by going looking elsewhere.
Unfortunately, misunderstandings in relationships do exist, but they must be dealt with by mature people and not like ostriches with their heads in the sand.
You will lose confidence in yourself and in others
Is it really worth sending all this drama to admit that your relationship has problems?
It is true that there is not only black and white, especially when it comes to human relationships and betrayal, but in love you should always try to be clear with yourself and not out of moralism or not to hurt others but to defend you, your self-confidence and the kind of person you want to be in life.