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Dispute in the couple: why it is beneficial
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Ouch, ouch, ouch! The plates are flying in all directions, the roast is definitely overcooked and in any case, there is no question of eating for the moment. Alerted by the screams, the neighbors are listening behind the door to see who will have the last word.
In short, another argument. Sometimes the words spoken and heard during these verbal jousts make us doubt our love or even our couple simply. That’s right: why make an explosive relationship last?
However, let’s not be too hasty, arguments don’t always mean that everything has to be thrown away… Let’s discover the three advantages of conflicts between lovers:
Arguments make us wiser…
Don’t be fooled, avoiding arguments in a couple is mission impossible. And for good reason! The budget to manage, the children’s homework, the never-ending chores… It’s easy to lose your cool in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. And when this happens, the reproaches come: I always do everything here! How long has it been since you cleaned the bathroom? Or, I only asked you to do one thing and you forgot it!.
However, it is a fact confirmed by the WHO: 80% of couples are in crisis. But love stories do not always end badly because of fate, they end badly because couples are not ready to fight. Indeed, society conveys the image of a life together without any hitch or even a word higher than the other.
Therefore, at the slightest hitch, no one wants to get back in the saddle. Arguments make us realize this reality, and once the shock is over, we grow up realizing that we often had unrealistic expectations. Don’t try to convince the other person that you’re both right. Instead, find a win-win compromise that works for everyone!
To argue is to discover each other in a different light
When a conflict breaks out, there is a reason. If you look at the reason, you will often discover what your sensitivities and weaknesses are for both of you. Arguments allow us to assert ourselves (and not only in a sound way). As a couple, we tend to see our partner as a kind of mirror where the differences hit us in an obvious way.dent. To tame this difference even if it is not easy when we are sent back all our defects in full head…
Conflict: The opposite of indifference
Because contrary to popular belief, the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. Studies show that couples who don’t fight end up not having intimacy and become mere roommates. And yes, this is the most important point, the thing to never forget: when we argue, it’s because we care…
What could be more reassuring than knowing that the other person cares as much as we do about the situation and happiness in the relationship? After all, if we argue… it’s to better reconcile!
