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Do you have enough sex? Here’s the formula to find out
There are many signs that let us know when we should have more sex, chief among them not wanting to have sex: in fact, the less we have sex, the less frequently we reach orgasm, and therefore the less libido is triggered in our hormonal (and mental) transitions.
** How much sex is too little sex? The signs to know when you are not having enough sex **
Others? We give you 9 alarm bells: if you collect more than three unmotivated by other factors run for cover.
** What happens if you don’t have sex for a long time? Here’s science’s answer **
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Do you suffer from insomnia
Dark circles, irritability, mental confusion and a sense of a muffled head.
Causing the insomnia may just be unsatisfactory sexual activity.
Having intercourse and reaching the peak of pleasure helps secrete a hormone called oxytocin, a substance that makes us happy and has high calming power.
The latter is precisely what ensures deep, restorative sleep.
If you haven’t made love for too long, the sheets will suffer in every sense of the word: both from the lack of pleasure between them and from the lack of sleep.
You are inexplicably under stress and in a bad mood
If you are stressed and perpetually irritable it may not have anything to do with work for once. How long has it been since you’ve made love?
If the answer is weeks or even months, then the cause of the bad mood may lie in just that.
Mood swings, especially in social settings, are often a signal sent by the body when it needs intercourse.
Abstinence leads to manifesting negative emotions such as irritability and pessimism, making us seem much more moody than we would be by having sex regularly.
Let’s ban moralizing: sex improves the state of mind and it is a need that cannot be repressed.
Have sexual fantasies at inappropriate times
Sexual fantasies are an integral part of anyone’s life and mind, regardless of the pace and intensity of sexual activity.
Usually sexual fantasies occur at night, either in a dream or during wakefulness indifferently, or as a result of a stimulus that has aroused us.
If, on the other hand, they begin to become particularly frequent, persistent, insistent, and harassing, appearing at the most disparate times of the day, then it means that the body is begging you to let it have sexual intercourse.
Skin appears dull
Skin is the litmus test of the state of your internal health, body and mind.
Skin rashes such as acne and dermatitis are often related to stress and psychological problems.
Even in prolonged sexual abstinence, the skin tells us a lot. Noticing a dull, gray complexion, skin that is drier and prone to flaking as well as an explosion of pimples could be a clue to a need for sexual intercourse.
Making love improves the condition of the skin: when you have sex frequently, your pores open up, getting rid of the impurities that lurk there, the ones that cause blemishes such as blackheads, blackheads and pimples.
And like any other physical activity, sex removes toxins through sweat and activates blood circulation.
Try looking in the mirror the next time you are done having sex. Just one look is enough to realize how beautiful passion makes us. There is no make-up that cancompete.
You are less sociable than usual
Not having sex for a long time may result in the tendency to social isolation.
Since abstinence leads to less production of endorphins-those substances that help maintain a good mood and a desire to be surrounded by other people-fewer sex equals fewer good hormones and fewer people around.
But just as sex is the most natural and important thing there is, the same goes for relationships (nonsexual, of all kinds) with others.
We are social animals so if you notice that lately you don’t feel like seeing friends and acquaintances investigate the reasons why. Also taking into account the sexual sphere.
Take more medication
The absence of sexual intercourse decreases the production of serotonin and endorphins, the hormones of happiness that not only give good mood but also act as powerful natural analgesics.
Having little sex and infrequently leads us to feel more acutely the sweets of the cycle, a headache, a toothache.
The more sex we have, the fewer painkillers we will have to take.
You feel insecure and ego down
Sexual abstinence goes hand in hand with dissatisfaction. You will tend to be more insecure about yourself and about everything you do, at any level (even professionally).
Sex improves self-esteem more than anything else in the world. Because it allows you to feel desired.
Not doing it for months can set up an insidious dissatisfaction that could even result in depression, anxiety and difficulty in making decisions calmly.
Be late for work a little too often
Another red flag is overwork. Those who throw themselves headlong into the professional sphere, neglecting all others, should ask themselves questions.
Sometimes the motivation is related to an unsatisfactory sex life, and people try to mitigate their carnal needs with exhausting sessions at the office, becoming unhappy workaholics.
Try taking off an hour earlier and taking time for yourself, finding someone to have fun with or rather opting for some autoeroticism (which is always good as a viable alternative).
You fill your days with (too many) hobbies
Even hobbies (if there are too many of them) might be hiding something disturbing.
Those who fill their free time with calligraphy classes, yoga, English schools and sewing workshops may not be satisfied with their lives. Sexual and otherwise.
Sex allows us to let off steam, it secretes hormones that are important for mental and physical well-being, but it even helps us get to know ourselves. And maybe to make us realize that actually sewing is not for us.
