First Christmas as a couple? How to choose a gift for him
You’ve been together for only a few months and have never bought him even a small gift, you’re afraid you won’t get the right one right, you don’t know what kind of gift to give and you don’t want to make a bad impression?
Don’t panic, the first Christmas as a couple is a challenge you can overcome in a big way, finding the perfect gift for him without going crazy.
We explain how to avoid stumbling upon the wrong gift and how to make your surprise unforgettable.
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You can do it, you just have to be able to make him understand what you want by throwing not even too veiled signals and figure out what he wants with simple and unsuspected questions.
Men respond to anything, they don’t notice that you are investigating.
Don’t reduce yourself to the last minute, however, otherwise you’ll end up buying something randomly and giving a gift just to do it; don’t be surprised then if he shows up with bear slippers.
The important thing is that it is thought out
It is not true that the important thing is the thought, a small thing bought at random like some dark chocolate and beer is not enough: the gift to your him must be well thought out, it must have meaning, for him and for you.
It has to tell a story, yours, is it the phrases that make you laugh or something that he would never expect, that he has thrown out there but that you have grasped.
The first gift has to say I care about you, I listen to you and I want to give you something that makes you happy.
Lots of small gifts
If you’ve only been together a short time maybe it’s not yet time for the big, challenging gifts, you don’t know each other well yet and risk throwing money away unnecessarily.
What to do then? Well you could make nice but different gifts, silly things that make him smile, you could even number them and put them all in a very big box, they probably won’t be useful but you will win in sympathy.
Try to figure out if you are on the right track
Do it with little questions that seem innocent, like, You know, I was thinking of giving a friend of mine a polaroid camera, I don’t know, what do you think, have you ever used it?
Or On top of this couch would fit a nice painting, but you’ve never thought about what you’d like to put on it, in short, from the answers you get you can tell if you’re on the right track or if you’re completely wrong.
Also take care of the presentation
The outline is almost as important as the gift, the moment you give it to him and how you give it to him is part of the experience and the memory he will have of that moment.
So please don’t downplay what you bought or thought about to get your hands on a possible disappointment, go big and keep the surprise high until the end.
A nice package, possibly a big one, it doesn’t matter if the gift is small, even if you have given cards you can put them in the bottom of a huge box with paper, it will be even more fun to have them find them.
Hide it well
Don’t let them find out, even under torture, never let anything out, and even the package should never hint at what’s inside.
So ban store branded cards or paper bags that speak for themselves, if understands what you got him what’s the taste?
You must be a kind of Santa Claus, and like him you must not be discovered until the last.
Do not give him anything that his mother would give him
Socks, scarves, gloves, pajamas, slippers, bathrobes, towels and sweaters with reindeer on them are forbidden.
You cannot give him anything that his mother or grandmother would think of, you are his girlfriend and must save him from sad gifts, just as he must do with you.
So avoid things that can keep him warm so he won’t get a cold.
No to useful gifts
Useful gifts are boring, they are the ones your relatives used to give you, always because your mother had a hand in them.
Useful gifts make you depressed, so even if his hand shower is broken, don’t even think of going to buy him a new one, or if he has an old frying pan, don’t even think of going to buy him a new set, unless he’s a cooking enthusiast.
Please abolish boredom, the useful things he can buy himself.
Yes to one thing for the two of you
Experiences are always a nice thing to give and experience together, so yes to plane tickets, concert tickets, game tickets, trains, or entrance fees for two somewhere.
The important thing is that you don’t end up giving yourself a gift, meaning that he will have to like it too.
It’s not nice to give him an entrance to the spa if he hates it, or a ticket to the concert of your favorite singer if he doesn’t even know him.
Whatever you do try to warm his heart, make his eyes shine and remind him of when he was a child, isn’t loving a person after all that too?
And isn’t that the still beautiful and pure part of Christmas?