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Here’s why couples often break up on Sundays
If you look back at your past romances you will probably notice that most of the crises and times you broke up happened on Sundays.
Nothing strange: Sundays for those suffering from the first signs of the end of a relationship become a torment: forcibly sharing spaces, having no distracting commitments, and doing almost the same things all the time does not help passion and leaves (too much) free time to focus on problems.
In short, Sunday is undoubtedly the day of the week when we break up the most: here’s why.
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You share the same spaces
On Sundays you don’t go to the office or school.
The result? One stays home, sharing-perhaps unwillingly-the same spaces.
Routine peeps in and boredom as well. And we know that both never bring anything good. In fact, love stress arises, so much for Sunday relaxation….
Sunday time is dilated
Because of the lack of commitments, meetings and deadlines that punctuate the day, Sunday has a different time from the rest of the week.
It seems more dilated, longer.
This chrono-slowness is perceived as alienating, which leads to the appearance of the worst enemy of being well: anxiety.
One goes to Ikea
A regular occurrence for many couples who-rather than lovers-are, if anything, smart and democratic design lovers is the Sunday trip to Ikea.
A true weekend mecca where one goes to find a new bed, kitchen table or yet another Billy shelf.
The stress of having to necessarily choose something, often clashing with your partner who would like to opt for a different color or pattern, could become a source of discord.
Not to mention coming home with a car trunk full of furniture…
Do-it-yourself assembly that you throw yourself into can really generate the proverbial War of the Roses. And if they are Roses, they will sting.
His/Her in-laws or friends come by
Unwelcome visitors are also another hot topic on Sunday.
On the day of rest, you never want to hear the doorbell ring, especially if it’s being rung by your partner’s family members and friends (who historically don’t go over well, especially on the day we love to be in makeup).
Sunday greetings from cousin, mother-in-law, and soccer buddies can contribute to the mood of the day. And to cause some bickering to ensue as soon as the host has lifted the curtains.
No commitments and deadlines
Absurdly, on the day when we might enjoy things slowly we instead paw for appointments, deadlines and meetings to begin.
Why? Perhaps to take our minds off what is wrong with our lives. Including the relationship.
It also happens that on Sundays the calm is so flat that we get anxious about Monday and all the unavoidable appointments that await us.
So even if in fact the deadlines are not there, you end up stressed about the future. And not having one’s mind occupied by commitments ensnares one in a spiral of anxious thoughts.
Like any vicious cycle, this labyrinth of anxieties is self-feeding, leading in the late afternoon to nervousness with a backlash.
You have more time to think
In addition to the fact that a clear mind can accommodate negative, anxiety-soaked thoughts, another reason for the onset of love insecurity on Sunday of all days is the very fact of thinking.
Having nothing to do, thoughts get tangled up and often focus on the partner (whom we have in front of us, the fault of the spaces we have to forcefully share).
Thus we begin to notice a certain way of his speaking that we find unbearable. More importantly, a string of whys begins.
Why did I get together with him? Why do I feel uncomfortable today? Why don’t things go the way I want them to?
Sometimes just going to the movies or jogging would be enough to avoid all this.
Silence reigns on Sundays
Self-empowering thoughts go hand in hand with silence.
Sunday is the day of the week when it reigns most, which should be good.
Instead, it happens that silence makes one uncomfortable. Why? Simple: in today’s neurotic and chaotic life, we are no longer accustomed to the absence of honking horns and beeping WhatsApp messages, so when these diminish we perceive aural relaxation as suspicious.
And the state of alertness is triggered, resulting in anxiety and stress.
Saturday night hangover often has something to do with it
Beware of overindulging in drinks on Saturday night: it is not uncommon for couples to break up on Sunday precisely after hangover arguments.
The day after having a hangover one is short-tempered, nervous, uncomfortable, and with a headache that befits little cohabitation and amiable talk, so it often happens to be intractable.
Bickering can only result from this behavior.
Sunday Blues
Even the so-called Sunday Blues are not good for the couple.
This is the melancholy that arises around 4 p.m. on Sunday and lingers into the evening.
The reason for this malaise? We worry that the weekend is coming to an end, in fact ruining it with our own hands (since it is not yet over but we already feel projected into Monday).
Over the weekend we can meet exes and old flames
Finally c’is enemy number one par excellence: the ex.
On Saturdays it is easier to cross paths with old flames and ex-lovers around town than the rest of the week.
On weekdays people work so the chances are slim (if the ex is not a colleague, of course) while on weekends it happens.
And sometimes meeting the one or she with whom we spent passionate moments can lead to comparisons with current eros.
Since it is well established that the human mind tends to sugarcoat the past and mythologize it, often the comparison is absolutely unequal. If you broke up, there must have been a reason, don’t you think?
