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How do I make him understand that I want a serious relationship?
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You’ve finally found someone you really like, and you’re dreaming of finally getting engaged. But after many exchanges and a few dates, you may not have yet broached the subject of the future of your romantic relationship.
It is very delicate to talk about the future for the first time with the one you love, but it is essential to know if you are on the same wavelength.
Before getting into the thick of things, it is wise to implement a few actions that will make him understand that you are looking for a stable relationship.
There are several ways to make yourself understood without rushing the man or woman who may well be the love of your life. The main thing is not to skip any steps. Starting in the wrong order can scare the love of your life away in a matter of seconds. Don’t scare her off, and take it slow.
Here are some essential steps to building a long relationship:
Make time for dating
One of the first signs of commitment is to spend as much time as possible with the person you love.
To let him or her know that you want to commit to a lasting relationship, offer to see each other again as soon as possible. The more frequent your dates are, the more your loved one will know that you feel good about him/her. But it doesn’t stop there.
Making time for him/her also means setting up a little ritual in your daily life, like calling each other every night or sending a message every morning. Having a little attention every day for a person shows your attachment to them.
You can also spend time preparing a little surprise for one of your next meetings. The more time you have taken to prepare something he/she really likes, the more he/she will notice your investment in your budding romance.
Try to seduce him/her every day
Seduction doesn’t stop at the first date. For a couple to last over time, each person must continue to want to seduce the other.
By showing your willingness to please her/him on date after date, you are also showing her/him that you are attached to this person, and that you want toBuild a strong relationship with her.
To do this, obviously, take care of yourself and your appearance. Try to feel good about yourself every time you see her/him. Show yourself in the best light.
Above all, establish a solid complicity between you. This can be done through humor and a few teasing jokes, or small personalized touches that show you are interested in her/his tastes.
Seduction is the key to a stable and fulfilling relationship, so never give up your efforts, and show your perseverance.
Show him that you are ready to make concessions
Entering into a serious story, it is inevitably to make with the differences that you have one compared to the other.
You may have different tastes in art, travel, or food. But rather than telling you that these differences will be a brake on your love story, if you are really attached to this person, you will have to show him/her that you know how to make concessions, and that you are ready to do so.
To begin with, take an interest in what the other person likes, and which did not interest you until now. Learn about it, try to understand why he/she likes it, and get used to living with it.
Then try to make these differences a strength for your future life together. They can make you complementary, or simply allow each of you to keep a little secret garden, or at least to have moments just for you.
Talk about your future plans
To show your need for stability in love, start talking about the future with your partner.
At first, start talking to him/her about how you see the future and ask him/her about his/her ambitions. You can start by talking about your professional and personal ambitions before talking about your love plans. As well as showing him/her that you are looking forward to a long term relationship, this is also an opportunity to make sure that your expectations are compatible.
Then, imagine a future together. First, talk about romantic weekends, vacations, and outings that you would like to do together. Then, little by little, you will naturally talk about your relationship in the long term.
Chese are not topics that are discussed lightly with anyone, and everyone knows it. So he/she will understand that you want to have a serious relationship with him/her.
Introduce him/her to your loved ones
Introducing your partner to your friends or family is a real sign of seriousness in a relationship. It’s an important moment because it makes your relationship official.
Start by organizing an outing with your friends, so that it doesn’t feel too formal. A night out with friends, without fuss and full of good humor, is always less stressful than meeting your new partner’s family.
If this meeting goes well for you and your new partner, you can move on to the next step and invite them to meet your parents or children.
He or she will instantly know that you are looking for a solid and lasting story. If he (or she) doesn’t have the same romantic ambitions, this will certainly be the time for him (or her) to run away.
This is why this step should not be taken too early in the relationship. You must first get to know each other well, and talk about your partner to your loved ones when you have the opportunity. And conversely, you should talk to your friends and family from time to time. This will already mark the beginning of a commitment, and will prepare him/her for the official meeting in a gentle way.
If you have finally met the love of your life, and even if all this necessarily impresses him/her, he/she will not be afraid of your vision of the future, of your loved ones or of your increasing number of dates. So don’t stay in a state of uncertainty, and take it easy.
