Why don’t men court anymore? The answer from psychology
Are you wondering why men don’t court anymore? Actually, you have a point: unfortunately, courtship lately is often skipped in...
How does a man function at the beginning of a relationship?
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You are a new couple and you don’t always understand the way your darling works. Not being able to read his mind, you are more or less destabilized. Don’t worry. Even if men are not all the same, the behavior they adopt at the beginning of a love relationship is more or less the same.
More action, less talk!
Don’t expect to hear him say I love you in the first few days. This is because men are less forthcoming than women. Your lover will therefore communicate mostly through actions. Holding your hand or hugging you in public is already an expression of his feelings. If he picks you up at your place of work or offers to drop you off at a friend’s house, this is his way of letting you know that he wants to take care of you. On the other hand, you’ll have to wait a little longer to get a passionate declaration of love.
There’s no rush…
Men usually like to take their time. Can’t wait to introduce him to your best friend or your parents? This is not necessarily the priority of your lover who would probably prefer to deepen your relationship a little more. Give him or her time to get to know you and allow time for him or her to gradually reveal themselves as well. Moving in together, planning a wedding, talking about your future children… these are thorny subjects that should be put off until (much) later.
Living in the moment
You’ve only just decided to become a couple, which means you have plenty of time to get to know each other. Men don’t like to be bombarded with questions about their past, especially at the beginning of a relationship. He chose you and not someone else. So you shouldn’t ask him about his exes, why it didn’t always work out, how many women he’s been intimate with. In his eyes, it is the present moment that counts and therefore you. Appreciate that for what it is worth.
To each his freedom
Your couple is still very new. Even if he is very attentive and even if you do everything to please him, your man needs his secret garden. We said it above, men like to takehis time. So he will certainly want to continue spending time with his buddies. He will need to have some time to himself, without you. This is not a sign of unlove, but a way that men sometimes use to evaluate the budding relationship.
It’s rare that a man is expressive from the start, but don’t let that discourage you. Respect his freedom, learn to enjoy every moment together and let time do its work. The more your relationship progresses, the more your man will reveal himself. Pay attention to the small details that may seem insignificant to you, but which reflect your darling’s feelings.
