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How to approach a girl you don’t know?
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There’s that beautiful stranger who has the ability to make your heart skip a beat, but you don’t know how to approach her without her sending you straight to the wall. Yet, you’ll have to take this charming risk to get an opening. Discover our tips to make your approach effective.
1. Make sure you look presentable
Girls prefer guys who take care of themselves. You don’t need to wear an overly expensive outfit or spray yourself with designer perfume from head to toe. However, it is important that you are neat: neat nails, neat hair, fresh breath, clean clothes and shoes, effective deodorant, these are already excellent bases. The importance of taking care of yourself to seduce is no longer in question.
You have been looking at her for a while, hesitating to approach her. Chances are she feels your gaze or has noticed your interest in her. So, you have to decide quickly. Take your courage in both hands and approach the one who has captured your attention. No need to run towards her. Be relaxed and walk towards her with a smile on your face.
3. approach her
This is the time to create an opening and therefore to arouse her interest. Tell yourself that you are probably not the first stranger to approach her and that there will surely be others after you. You must therefore choose an original strategy to avoid becoming the umpteenth stranger who has crossed his path. Create a first eye contact by looking for his gaze and possibly an encouraging smile from him.
4. contextualize your hook
You can’t approach a girl by telling her things she already knows: that she is beautiful, that she is tall, that her lipstick looks good…. Get her to talk by using a more original approach. For example, mention the fact that you are at the same coffee shop at the same time every day. Refer to the book that seems to be absorbing her. Tell her you are new to the area and could use some advice on transportation, good restaurants, things to do, etc. You need a good reason or at least a credible excuse to get her attention and make her want to continue the conversation.
5. be normal
Too much shyness is as harmful as too much brazenness. So be relaxed to make a good impression. Adopt a calm tone when approaching her. Also, make sure you don’t talk too fast or too slow. She needs to understand what you are saying. In the same vein, don’t bombard her with questions right from the start. Let her decide if she wants to continue the conversation or not. This means giving her some time to respond to you. Her silence doesn’t necessarily mean she’s turning you down. She may be thinking about how to interact with you as a complete stranger.
6. Make eye contact with her
Politeness is a must, and making and keeping eye contact is extremely important. You are showing your respect. No matter how beautiful she is, don’t stare at her body and don’t linger on particular areas such as her breasts or hips. Stay focused on what she is saying and hold her gaze.
7. Discuss according to the circumstances
Your catchphrase paid off and the discussion continues, that’s excellent! Being strangers to each other, avoid angry topics like religion, politics, sex… Instead, continue on the basis of your initial catchphrase or select another neutral topic. For example, talk about your job, travel, gastronomy, bring her to discuss in confidence.
8. Compliment her
As mentioned above, avoid obvious compliments and rely more on sincere compliments. Tell her that her smile does not leave you indifferent, that she has beautiful eyes, that her voice is pleasant… Does she disparage herself? Answer from the tac to the tac! If, for example, she tells you that she thinks she is too fat, don’t look at her from head to toe. Instead, tell her that she has curves in the right places.
9. Be funny and mysterious at the same time
Having a sense of humor is always an advantage, but be careful, no dark humor or cow humor. Take things lightly and don’t hesitate to use self-deprecation (sparingly) so that this first contact isn’t too formal. At the same time, don’t let yourself go too far. This is not the time to tell your life story but rather the opportunity to make him want to know you better.
10. Don’t be too insistent
You approach him in but she doesn’t seem interested? Insisting too much will give her the impression that you are desperate. Disdain is not recommended either. Instead, opt for respect: walk away gently, have a kind word. She may come to you of her own free will when she sees that you are potentially a good man.
Approaching a stranger is less complicated than it seems. Be confident and relaxed and everything will be fine.
