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How to celebrate Valentine’s Day based on the type of couple you are
Ready to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
If you are looking for ideas on how to spend Valentine’s Day, take a step back and ask yourself first what kind of couple you are.
A young couple? An established one (and perhaps with children at home)? Are you friends with benefits or perhaps two former lovers who have found each other?
The universe of couples is diverse, and ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day cannot disregard the context and indeed must adapt to it.
The experts at Guidapsicologi.it have identified certain types of couples, with their characteristics, and for each of them have provided valuable tips for celebrating Valentine’s Day.
9 types of couples: how to celebrate Valentine’s Day
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1. If it is a new flirtation
If there is not much shared relationship history yet, the enthusiasm typical of when starting a new relationship will make this date a sweet and romantic day.
This is an emotional state related to the idea of being able to say to oneself I am no longer single and I can share this day with my partner, which for many people has a mentally comforting effect on dates like this.
Since you have only known each other for a short time, however, it can be more complicated to know what your partner likes or what might turn you on. There has not been time to forge enough memories, and you may run the risk of resulting in a day that has more business connotations than exciting ones.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
The best thing would be to plan something together, previously agreed upon. By doing so, both parties can get to know what the other prefers and what makes him or her feel comfortable.
Beware: the surprise factor should not disappear; during the search for a final agreement many details arise that can be incorporated without the other’s knowledge, to leave him or her speechless!
2. If it’s a blowback
When you experience a blowback with your ex, you already know each other and you know how to surprise the other person, so you can take advantage of a day like this to do something together and try to smooth out old rough edges, proposing this day as a date focused on the couple and spending time with each other.
Be careful, however, the reasons for the breakup may still be there and may show up when you spend time together. Feelings such as suspicion, frustration, helplessness, or even jealousy might arise.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
A restorative approach is recommended: take advantage of this day to spend time together and leave aside the reasons for the breakup.
Another option is to recreate one of the most beloved dates of those that occurred in the past, which can bring with it good memories and positive feelings.
3. If you are married with children
Are you married and have children? Then you are a couple in which there is mutual commitment and trust. Therefore it is easy for you to know how to make each other feel comfortable and satisfied.to.
The feeling of having a family, of being a group, can be something magical on a day when we celebrate love.
Monotony, however, can get in the way of the magic and excitement of a day like Valentine’s Day. Sometimes there is a risk of spending little quality time as a couple.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
It would be interesting to be able to plan something different, something you have never dared to do or something pending that you have long wanted. The most important thing, in fact, is to break the monotony.
It might also be fun to let the children join in the festivities, but the truth is that if you are not used to sharing a lot of time as a couple, it would be better to try to spend quality time with each other, without offspring in tow.
4. If you are about to break up
Are you a couple but your love is reaching the end of the line? Valentine’s Day can be a perfect opportunity to institute a day of peace, to have a date that is an opportunity to put all conflicts aside for a while and remember how special the other person is.
Beware, however, if conflicts are intense or feelings have changed, doing anything on this date may prove to be a double-edged sword and bring with it an unpleasant feeling of wasted time. It could also create embarrassing situations.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
The most advisable thing to do in this situation is to reach an agreement and negotiate, so that there are no surprises that could be uncomfortable or unpleasant for both of you.
It may be interesting for each member of the couple, in case they decide to celebrate this day together, to propose something they have always wanted to do with the other person and try to incorporate the wishes of both parties.
5. If you are an open couple
The good thing about this day is that you can decide to celebrate love with more than one person or with just one. Devoting time to loved ones in a symbolic way helps to reinforce the idea of security in the relationship.
However, trust and respect for boundaries is crucial in this type of relationship. When one of these pillars falters, problems can arise that can cause jealousy, feelings of insecurity, or distress. Especially, on special dates such as these, when love is celebrated.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
It would be wise to first agree with whom you will spend the day, so as to provide a sense of security. Also be careful that the main partner does not lose his or her role.
6. If you are lovers
Plans on how to spend Valentine’s Day evening between two lovers can be decidedly passionate and daring, as is the relationship itself. Intimate moments are usually more coveted and more appreciated because they are more rare and secret.
On a date like this, however, inconveniences may arise depending on the marital status of the lovers, and from having to choose with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day. This could cause quite a few problems, both on one side and the other.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
In this case it is necessary to respect the other person’s status and needs, as well as their choice of how and with whom they wish to celebrate February 14.
It is a holiday on which to feel loved, not to blame the other person, or to make unfair statements.
7. You are friends with benefit
If you are friends with benefit, planning a date on this date can serve to take stock of the direction the relationship is taking, whether you really want to stay on the friendship level or take a step forward.
The enthusiasm of the beginning, the attraction, the complicity, are factors that play into it, which can contribute to a breakthrough in the type of relationship.
Beware, however, just as you may realize that there is something more, you may also come to the conclusion that there is nothing more than friendship. If you are new to relationships of this kind, feelings of unease or bewilderment may arise.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
It would be best to plan the date with an open mind and without setting rigid expectations.
Let go, in the sense of exploring all the feelings and emotions that both parties are experiencing, without rejecting any of them; whether they are positive or negative. They could prove to be extremely helpful for both parties in deciding which path to take.
8. If you are in a long-distance relationship
This date can be a special occasion to spend time together and surprise each other, not only with presence, but with a fun program or meaningful details in case you are in a long-distance relationship.
However, on a day like Valentine’s Day, couples in a long-distance relationship may feel more nostalgic and sad because the feeling of not spending enough time with their loved one is amplified.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
In case you can spend time together, it would be nice to opt for something you haven’t had a chance to do yet, or just spend an afternoon on the couch and cuddle.
If, on the other hand, you are far away, it is important to let the other person know that you are always there, either with a more romantic video call or some long-distance detail (a letter, video, gift, etc.).
9. If you are in a virtual relationship
In recent years, the number of virtual relationships has increased exponentially. Through distance one can find many ways to show love to the other person, and these couples are more accustomed than others, opting for creativity and originality.
These are usually relationships in which there is more trust: as they lack direct contact, words gain more weight.
On the other hand, if the relationship lacks trust, one or both parties may suffer more on days like Valentine’s Day.
Emotions such as sadness and frustration may also arise from not being able to be in person with a partner, just as happens in long-distance relationships.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day?
It can be a special occasion to bring out your creativity and do something special for the couple.
From sending something virtual or physical that could be meaningful to both of you, to planning a date via video call where you can eat together or visit a special place, or, why not, meet for the first time outside the virtual world.
