How to deal with exes on social media
Did you break up because the relationship had ended but you still love each other very much? Or, conversely, do you hope to get him back on his feet by making him jealous or making him regret you and the times you spent together? Whatever the situation, there are some things not to do with exes on social media.
For mutual respect and to maintain a good relationship, in fact, you will have to – both of you – abide by some rules that will allow a quiet life on the same platform.
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That said in a nutshell means not rubbing each other’s faces in the eventual new emotional life or a surplus of emotions.
In short, here are some good rules to adopt so you don’t destroy each other’s hearts — and safeguard yourself from posting things you’ll end up regretting.
8 things not to do with exes on social (if you are fresh from a breakup)
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Don’t block him/her
Unless you have very good reasons for cutting him/her off from every aspect of your life, forget about privacy filters, thanks to which you can make a piece of content visible to everyone but your ex.
Not for anything else, but to find out what you do all he would need to do is view your profile from a friend’s phone. What you don’t want to be public to him you don’t have to share with the world: tell your friends about it.
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Ignore comments from friends who don’t know it yet
People manage to make the most inappropriate comments at the worst possible times and don’t just make them verbally – and so they often decide that a social feed is the right venue to send greetings to you and your (ex) boyfriend, tagging him in the comment.
Don’t delete, don’t do anything, just breathe, ignore and then report it to him, as if nothing happened, when you meet him on the street.
No provocative content
Social media should not be used to let your ex know what you think about him and your relationship, nor to send him more or less coded messages: for this purpose you can always use direct chats (or tie your hands and let it go just like that, which is often the best choice).
So, no gifs where things explode or songs of Sufjan Stevens cursing his ex, understood?
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Avoid overdoing it with likes
Agreed, you love him and like his photos or the articles he shares but, if he’s the dumped one, your storm of likes won’t help him.
Every like will be a small and fragile hope to hang on to and you don’t want him to hang on to a branch. (RIGHT?).
Different motivation, but same rule if you are the one left behind: if you are tempted to do so, when you are about to click like remember that he did not like you enough.
Habits are hard to erase, but in these cases a little coolness helps.
Don’t get tagged in embarrassing photos
Explain to friends and girlfriends that you would prefer to keep private videos or photos of you drunkenly throwing your bra on stage at your favorite band or of you flirting even with rocks.
Whatever you think will get you, it won’t work.
Don’t post your songs
If that was your song, you can’t recycle it to dedicate it to your cousin or to post it tagging your friends.
You don’t recycle songs, even if you broke up, the world has produced billions of them, you can always find another one to dedicate to the first day of spring. There’s really no excuse.
Don’t repost memories
Curse memories and social media that keep us from forgetting things.
Maybe he/she in that photo is not even there, but if the memory is shared the old photos don’t need to come back to life – leave them in the past.
And if you are dating a new guy.
… At least in the first period avoid public declarations of love and even getting tagged in photos of the sunset taken from the window of your house.
You will have your whole life to share your business on the social, a detox period can only do you good.