How to forget your ex when you still love him?
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How to get over your ex? Is it even possible?
His or her scent still floats on the sheets, here one of his or her abandoned shower gels proudly sits on the bathroom shelf, and there, that jar of pesto sauce that only he or she used to eat challenges you in your own fridge. Your home is as full of memories as it is empty of his or her presence. But how can you forget him or her? How do you stop staring at your phone every minute, how do you stop coming back to the hopelessly empty Facebook notification tab? How do you learn to live again without the loved one who is now gone?
Cliché when you hold us…
To begin with, don’t fall into clichés! It is very easy to hate your ex and let your friends criticize him over a glass of wine! But you’re not going to regret it anyway? Remember that time he forgot your birthday, or his stupid friends who used to hang out on your couch on game days? Believe me, you’ll be better off for it!First of all, you have to be realistic and take stock: yes, your relationship was not perfect but you had some great times too. It is useless to lie to yourself, no you don’t hate him/her and his/her departure makes you suffer.
Hello mommy boo-boo…
And yes, you are in pain, let’s talk about it! Accept that you are sad, it’s perfectly normal, you have the right to cry (I’m speaking especially for you gentlemen!). Crying, in addition to relieving, tires you and allows you to find a sleep sometimes gone at the same time as your ex.
Still avoiding those pesky clichés, don’t delete all your photos, you might regret it. What to do with your gifts? Be an adult, without a request from him you are entitled to keep them and do what you want with them, whether it’s wearing that pretty bracelet, forgetting it in a box or taking a look on Leboncoin. The decision is yours! Stay pragmatic, give her back all her forgotten things in order to clear your mind and your home! Don’t hesitate to tidy up, reorganizing your furniture is also reorganizing your thoughts!
And me in the end…?
But the most important thing in all this is you! Take time for yourself! Treat yourself, go out, join the gym, buy yourself nice things, make yourself beautiful. It is not because a relationship stops that the world will stop. The end of something is always the beginning of something else, so lift your head, take a deep breath and go for it!