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How to know if a woman is sincere with you?
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You’ve finally managed to approach him, you’ve been hanging out for a few days or even weeks and you’re starting to get attached. But how do you know if she is not playing with your feelings? How do you know if this woman you like so much is sincere and serious? To know if a woman is manipulating you, 4 indicators are to be taken into account…
1. She only brings you closer if she is forced to
By closer we mean physical closer but also mental closer.
To come closer to another person physically is to kiss him, to caress him, to have intimate relations with him. More basically, it starts with sitting next to them, looking into their eyes with a knowing smile.
To approach another person mentally, it is to address compliments to him, to take him on a friendly intellectual ground, where each of the partners will supplement the other one most often on the approached subjects.
A woman who is not sincere will only make these two types of approaches if she is forced to do so. That is, when she needs you, your help at some point, or when she feels that she has sidelined you for a long time and that you might notice. She will then suddenly start being cajoling and flattering almost without reason!
To tell you the truth, a woman who doesn’t care about you will behave in a very unnatural way towards you. You will more often have the impression that she does not like to be with you, that she does not like your conversations, that she is not interested in you than the opposite!
2. she talks very little about her feelings, her text messages are terse
Rarely will a woman who is not sincere with you detail how she feels about you. For her, no big speech like Heloise versus Abelard and no hair strand given like Mathilde to Julien in Le rouge et le Noir! You will have, if you are lucky, a few I love you positioned here and there in brief moments together and the rest of the time nothing at all!
To put it simply, she doesn’t spend time dissecting what she feels because she often feels nothing! So why talk about what doesn’t exist?
Likewise, she answers your text messages in a brief manner, without embellishment. In the same spirit as before, she doesn’t bother too much with the letters of the alphabet. The shortest sentences and words are enough for him to respond to your fiery writings.
3. She puts you after her girlfriends and her relatives do not know you
Loving and sincere woman often focuses on the subject of her sweet torment. He comes first! Woman in love and sincere wants to be with you most often and shout her happiness to the whole world!
Conversely, a woman who doesn’t care about you prefers the company of her friends and does not introduce you. She even avoids giving you her hand in public. If you don’t think about it, you might think you’re together! Of course she won’t justify it like that, she will most likely give an excuse like Holding hands is for old people or You won’t like my friends, they are not good enough for you.
4. she blows hot and cold and money you will give!
A woman who is not sincere is playing a role. As a result, her actions towards you are rarely uniform since they are dictated by the needs of a script she writes as she goes along. To do this, she wants you to be addicted to her, while being away from her as often as possible!
Thus, you go with her from Charybdis to Scylla: one day she reproaches you for being too present, the next day you are not there enough… On Monday you are the best in the kitchen and on Saturday nobody can beat her ex Michel in this field! It’s hard to understand, you might think? You’d be right: unfortunately, that’s what it’s all about. The more you are destabilized, the more she will make you do what she wants. You will find yourself in perpetual search of the slightest smile, of the slightest kindness to find the divine taste of happiness that she sometimes deigns to crumble…
The worst thing is that very often this will be done through attentions that will put a strain on your budget. Indeed, what better way to apologize than a pretty bracelet / bouquet of flowers / meal at the restaurant / weekend at the sea? And you know that in the end you should have opted for a necklace / box of chocolates / movie / weekend in the mountains… You really don’t understand anything about her!
A note of hope however:
It is possible that this woman who seems to be playing with you is in love with you after all.ous. It is possible that she was very unhappy in love before you, she just wants to test the solidity and the truthfulness of your attachment… The mission to be taken up then is not the easiest but if you accept it and hold on, it is however possible to envisage a future with her. How to know if this is the story that awaits you? A simple gesture: leave. Run away and watch how hard she tries to win you back… or not.
