How to make a couple or a relationship last?
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A couple is you + me and not ME!
You’ve found your other half, you’re well together and you’re crossing your fingers that your idyllic relationship never ends… I’ll stop you right there, at the beginning everything is rosy, one and the other presents itself in its best light and it’s afterwards that everything spoils… and yes, our best friend EGO gets the upper hand and each one wants to impose its way of being on the other. An unstoppable trick: in couple if you play it personal it’s dead !!!!
We often lose sight of the very essence of the couple, the strength, energy and maturity that it can give us alone we go faster, together we go further (African proverb). The other person has a different personality, but isn’t that what makes us grow? So, in order to avoid throwing your love away like an old sock at the slightest trifle, try to understand him instead of imposing yourself stupidly, stay calm instead of roaring like a lion and getting angry, question yourself instead of overwhelming him and you’ll see, your other half will be appeased and you’ll find in each situation a common ground that will allow both of you to come out a winner and yes… it’s called compromise… but when the couple acts in a calm and responsible way, the relationship is strengthened!
Learning to communicate
A couple is not made to hear each other but to listen to each other (Grégoire Lacroix).
Communicating well as a couple is the cement of the relationship. The slightest annoyance felt by the other person and not revealed can take on considerable proportions, setting the couple on fire and leading to their loss. Nowadays, we no longer communicate, we give in to the easy way and we separate!
So, learn to communicate with your other half: to communicate is not to think in the place of the other, not to remain camped on its own beliefs or its own prejudices but to make the other speak in order to know the origin of its uneasiness or its attitude. Communicating is also not imposing one’s way of doing things on the other person, it is simply exposing our opinion and making them understand the ins and outs of their action, making them responsible and not directing them! To communicate is finally to dissipate the sickly jealousy which poisons the couple.
Nothing is ever acquired!
147The routine as discreet as it is kills the couple slowly. Boredom sets in and desire withers… and without desire, there is no longer a couple, we become roommates or an old austere couple… To make your couple last, spice up your relationship REGULARLY: small attentions are enough to keep the flame alive…
Change your habits, give a kick in the anthill and allow yourself a few sprigs of madness !!!! Think of your couple as a heart, if it stops beating, it’s dead so keep it going like on the first day of your relationship and give it a few small palpitations sometimes, it can’t hurt! 😉
Don’t suffocate the other!
If you love your other half, you have to let her cultivate her secret garden and give her some freedom. Trust her! Do you grumble because your partner sometimes goes out with his friends and leaves you to languish at home? Know that no one belongs to anyone and your spouse is not your toy. Each of us must remain attentive to his or her own needs so that both of us can be fulfilled and the couple can survive.
An overly fused relationship is unhealthy because we cut ourselves off from social life, we don’t cultivate our own interests and our conversations are flat. So even if your other half means everything to you, it’s all about balance: couple activities and separate activities and you’ll find that your darling will be more relaxed… Your love will appreciate hugging you when he/she comes home…