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How to say I love you for the first time?
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You smile stupidly at the thought of him, you get butterflies in your stomach every time you see each other. No doubt, there is love in the air and you are dying to admit it. The problem is, you’re not sure how to go about it. Follow these tips to declare your love!
A heart is always in the right place
You’re not quite ready to tell them that you love them directly, so you’d rather do it subtly. Keep it simple, use a heart to let her know how you feel. Draw your heart with lipstick or shaving cream on the bathroom mirror. Send her a text message or private message on social media with just a heart. Draw a heart on a post-it note, possibly signing your message to avoid confusion. This gesture won’t cost you much, yet it means a lot.
A soft word to not rush anything
It doesn’t matter what medium you use (paper or digital), what matters is to let her know in a few words that you feel something deep and sincere. You’re all I think about isn’t bad, but you can be even more direct by writing you make my heart beat or my life makes sense when you’re by my side. Your statement will certainly arouse their feelings and you will certainly get a response to your little love note.
A dinner, a romantic context par excellence
Bring out the big game: candles, wine, good food… it’s a big night where you will play the seduction card to the fullest. It’s also the perfect time to tell her that you’re not just a fling or a relationship based exclusively on sex. It may not be time to propose yet, but it’s time to tell her how you feel. Tell her you want your relationship to last. Talk about living together (if you are still living apart) Let him or her know that he or she is the ray of sunshine in your life because you simply love him or her.
A 100% explicit gift
The idea is to give him or her an object on which the famous phrase I love you is engraved. It can be a titanium bracelet, a plush toy, a mug, a key ring or a simpthe card. What matters is that your significant other understands the message you are sending.
An (almost) unconditional support
To give him your support, it is to free time to be at his side, to grant him an attentive ear and to prove your presence in the difficult moments. You are not judging, you are providing advice. Loving is also knowing how to put the hola, so don’t hesitate to bring him or her back to the right path if you think his or her decision is not the right one. Say I’m here for you and prove it!
A Musical Declaration
Give him or her a song that reflects your feelings. It’s so romantic! You can also mix several songs, each time selecting the verses and or chorus that speak to you the most. Choose a quiet moment to let her listen and gently let her know that what drives you is a burning love.
A moment off the beaten track
He wants to take you skiing but you’ve always refused? She wants to sign you up for pottery classes as a couple but so far you’re not tempted? This could be your chance to change your mind. Giving her this time away from your routine and allowing you to discover what she likes is a golden opportunity to declare your love. Because no, skiing and pottery are not your thing, but you really want to please her.
A letter like in the good old days
Forget about SMS, Messenger and other modern communication channels and pick up a pen and paper. Write him a nice letter! You don’t need to be a poet. You just have to be sincere. Moreover, a letter can be kept and reread at will.
Physical contact: between passion and tenderness
Squeezing their hand, caressing their face, snuggling in their arms… the body allows us to express our feelings in a thousand and one ways. The declaration can also happen under the comforter, as long as you really make love and not just take a quick shot.
Saying I love you, simply
All means are good to declare your love but saying it directly is even better even if it is not the most original. You don’t need a complex staging. After a kiss, look straight into her eyes and sayTell her you love her. Your declaration can also happen during a walk in the park, when you’re cooking together, at the carnival… whatever the context, your love will take over.
Words and actions are complementary when it comes to saying I love you. Choose the method that best convinces you to take the plunge!
