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How to turn a friendship into a love story?
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He or she is your friend, you have seen him or her as such since your first meeting, but suddenly, an I don’t know what questions you…
The atmosphere between the two of you is so pleasant, so intense that you have come to wonder, very fleetingly for the moment, what if…?
What if it went further? What if it became love?
1. it is urgent to take your time!
Know how to hear that little voice. To do this, take a few moments to relax. Don’t deny the pencil and the immaculate sheet of paper to sort out your thoughts, emotions, needs… What has made your feelings change? Is it all the time or is it only in certain situations? Is it when you are in his or her presence or is it also when he or she is elsewhere? Be sure of yourself
Once you have passed this step. You are better able to define if you want this friendship to lead to a love encounter. You are clear about the pros and cons, the advantages and also the disadvantages.
However, you should not declare yourself immediately if you have validated the love option. As we have just seen, you have only answered the question Should we turn this friendship into love? You have also seen that there is no ready-made answer to this question. The answer is personal, it depends on your own feelings. A feeling that you will have been able to ask and question with patience!
3. have an action plan
Anything that is solid is built with method and takes time. We see this every day in many fields and for most subjects. With few exceptions, it is rare that without having to plan, wait, or cultivate anything, one immediately obtains the realization of a wish, a desire, an object, or a success…
Before opting for a strategy, let one night pass. It often brings advice and ideas are clearer once the emotion has subsided.
4. Create the opportunity, change the weather between you
To do this, take inspiration from nature. Give yourself 3 months or a season to let your friend understand the changes in you. 3 months for the ground, the soil between you to transform and become different.
During this time, you will gradually pick up clues to your new point of view. In a subtle way, you will change your status in his eyes. Without him (her) realizing it. Like the foliage that grows every day in the spring before his or her eyes. At the beginning a few barely visible buds, at the end of the course, an evidence of renewal impossible to circumvent!
The first thing to change is your outfit. It’s your friend, so you know what he likes or dislikes. Align yourself with his or her style without talking to him or her about it. One of your assets will be the perfume, identify the one he (she) likes and for which you could opt. If you are of the same sex, or a woman who wants to get closer to a man, it may be interesting to connect more, seemingly… to put on the same perfume as the person who now occupies your heart…
The second element to reconfigure will be your availability. This will be an opportunity to make yourself wanted. With nuance of course, do not disappear for weeks on end! The other person must long for you, must feel a lack. A way to make him/her think of the importance you have for him/her.
5. you are never more present than when you are absent!
Thus, slowly, he/she will think more and more about you, will wonder about this lack, will think about the last changes perceived in you, in your relationship… Thus, when you come back, according to the signals detected in you and in your friend, it will be time to declare yourself… or not…
