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How to turn a serious encounter into a lasting relationship?
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A budding relationship is full of euphoria and passion. But it’s also a time full of doubts and uncertainties. We wonder if this beautiful romance will last, and how to preserve it.To transform this beautiful meeting into a true love story, and why not into a beautiful marriage, there are some secrets of longevity.
If communication, sensuality and time spent together seem to be obvious notions when building a couple story, we must not forget to take care of ourselves. And this not to please, but above all to feel good. Happy partners make for a happy couple.
To make a love story last: think of yourself too
When we live a brand new relationship, we often tend to give everything for this new love that embellishes our life, even if it means forgetting ourselves. This is the first mistake not to make. The person you just met loves you for who you are, so don’t neglect yourself. Make sure you feel good, and be happy, you will be more attractive.
Your passions, your hobbies or your work are all elements that shape your personality. If you put them aside to devote yourself solely to your new relationship, you could one day feel frustrated at having neglected these aspects of your life, and this could be detrimental to your relationship.
In the same way, don’t sacrifice going out with friends or family for a date with your new partner. Your friendships and family relationships are essential to your personal balance, and you should not forget them. You can always make a date with your new partner when you are available.
Whenever possible, why not include your lover in your outings with friends, or introduce them to your hobbies? This is an opportunity to reveal yourself a little more by letting them discover your world.
Make time for your new date
Even if you don’t have to change your habits too much, try to include some time for just the two of you.Outside of activities, or dates with friends, consider scheduling a restaurant, or even a weekend just for the two of you, and no one else. This time together will be ideal for getting to know each other in detail.
Share your passions with your soul mate
For your love relationship to last as long as possible, you need to take the time to discover each other.
All the activities you have in common are so many pleasant moments to share together. But to get to know each other better, you have to dare to take a closer look at the hobbies that you may never have thought about but that your partner loves. You should also not hesitate to make discover your passions to your loved one.You may also choose to start an activity that is new to both of you. By learning new things together, you will strengthen your complicity and create a whole panel of memories for both of you.
Dialogue and communication: the keys to a stable relationship
To make this serious encounter a stable relationship on the long term, it is essential to dialogue a lot from the start. To start, take an interest in your new conquest’s past and childhood. Share your life experiences and learn as much as you can about your partner’s personality and what makes him or her who he or she is today.
Find out about his or her taste in music, movies, travel, food… This is valuable information that will be useful throughout your relationship.
If your romance is prolonged, you will not be able to avoid some conflicts. In this case, be patient, and above all, never make parallels with your past stories. Each relationship is different, and you should avoid comparing them. Stay open to dialogue, don’t close yourself off, explain your differences in a respectful way, learn to forgive and apologize when you were wrong.
Finally, don’t be afraid to reveal your feelings, but don’t go too fast. Find the right time to say I love you and to show how much you care about that person. Don’t be afraid to compliment your partner on what you like about him/her, express your gratitude when he/she tries to please you, and don’t be stingy with your kind words.
Sensuality: the essential element of a couple that lasts
At each stage of the couple’s life, sensuality will reflect the complicity between the two partners. From the start, let your instincts guide you and be tactile.
Cuddly moments may not be obvious at the very beginning of a relationship, first of all because you don’t live together yet, and you need to be able to be alone. But still, keep physical contact as often as possible. Take his hand, caress his arm, etc… the slightest physical contact will increase your complicity tenfold, and will reassure the other about your feelings. Body language is just as important as verbal language.
Give your partner daily attention
Last but not least, give your partner regular, even daily attention. There’s no need to go all out every day, even if a special surprise from time to time will please your partner. The little touches every day are the most appealing.
Before living together, it is possible to show attention through calls, messages and last minute appointments. When you are together, take advantage of every moment to dance together, make each other laugh, and increase your complicity tenfold. The small daily attentions will be the most effective to make your idyll last.Building a long-term relationship with someone, even if it is your soul mate, is an art. You have to be careful and take your time. Before living together, you will have to go through many steps, so as not to risk rushing things. Going too fast can sometimes lead to a sentimental failure, either because you did not know the person well enough, or because you forgot yourself. Let time make your meeting the most beautiful of your love stories.
