Why don’t men court anymore? The answer from psychology
Are you wondering why men don’t court anymore? Actually, you have a point: unfortunately, courtship lately is often skipped in...
If he doesn’t want to commit try this.
Does it tell you that he is insecure, that he does not want to commit, that he is not ready for something serious?
If you like him and don’t want to give up on him, you have only one possible strategy to try to implement, and that is to make him miss the ground under your feet.
How? By letting him know that you are not always at his disposal by running away by staying within his range.
If there is room, you will see that he will be the one begging you to get with him: it just takes a little time and a little cunning.
We explain how to do it step by step.
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If you are not engaged then you are friends
If he doesn’t want to have anything more with you, well the best strategy is to stop giving him what he wants and when he wants it.
You have to play smart, change the rules of the game, tell him, for example, that you see him more as a friend and that you may have to turn your relationship into something different.
Make him feel insecure
If he doesn’t want to commit maybe it’s because he thinks he doesn’t have to give you more certainty and that he has exactly what he needs.
That is you, plus the chicks he wants when he wants them.
Stop making him feel so secure, answering the phone all the time, letting him know where you’re going and when you’re going, disappearing for a while and then coming back as if nothing happened.
Your change will make him feel more insecure, and that will make him come back to you.
Flirt with someone else in front of him
While you are together, at an exhibition, at a restaurant or at a bar, be catty with the bartender, with someone who is looking at a painting or with the waiter.
Don’t overdo it, but you will see that you will make him jealous.
On the other hand, if he doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend….
Pretend you are texting with someone else
Rename your best friend on your address book with a male name, like Ivan, and text each other a lot while you are with him.
If he asks you who he is pretend he is an unimportant friend and go over it so lightly.
Flirt with him but then deny yourself
Men love women who give mixed signals, so flirt with him and deny yourself, tell him you can’t complicate your relationship, but then leave the door open again.
In short, one step forward and two steps back: you will see that he will follow you.
Don’t let him find you all the time
Don’t run to him every time he whistles your name, don’t get ready in five seconds when he tells you he’s near your house.
Tell him no, don’t see him every time he proposes, tell him you have another commitment, be a little mysterious – and above all, committed!
Don’t throw shenanigans
You’re not his girlfriend, so don’t act like one: don’t bust his chops about everything and never ever beg him to see you again or set up a second date right away: he’s the one who has to chase you.
Make things difficult
Guys who don’t want to commit don’t like easy things: you must be a climb to a very high and pristine mountain.
What do you have to do? Don’t give the impression that you are always helpful; in fact, you are not helpful at all.
At the bottom lui wants a free relationship, this means that you are free not to indulge.
Always take care of your outfits to the max
Always be a space hottie when you see him.
He must want to shout to the whole world that you are his woman and that you belong to no one else.
Go out with him to dinner and then tell him you have a commitment
You are not engaged and if he assumed you would spend the after-dinner time together too, that’s his problem.
Have a perfect evening and then before coffee tell him you absolutely have to catch a friend of yours afterwards, she just broke up and is very sad.
