Internet dating: make friends on the Internet?
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Today, with the rise of social networks, the term friendship seems to have been popularized. Indeed, we speak of friend on Facebook all the people we add to our profile regardless of our real affinities. In this article about friendship on the Internet, we will go back to the essence of the notion of friendship which must remain a sincere, constructive and lasting value and which can sometimes even turn into a loving feeling.
Comfort, escape and freedom
The virtual world has the extraordinary ability to connect souls from around the world. What the physical will never allow (Patrick Louis Richard).
Burdened by our obligations and the stress of daily life, we need to let go, to empty our bag, to be listened to, supported and understood, but it is sometimes difficult to communicate our state of mind to our loved ones or our friends, who are often very busy and whom we do not want to worry. We would also like to share our interests with someone but often our leisure time is limited. As a result, we are content to dwell on our worries, to ruminate, whereas a very simple solution exists: INTERNET.
It’s no secret that the Internet has become an essential and revolutionary medium that allows us to satisfy many of our needs in a quick and efficient way. However, when we are looking for sincere friendships, we don’t necessarily think about this mode of meeting.
However, due to its ease of use, its immediacy, its flexibility and its rich content, the Internet allows us to make well-targeted friendships and thus break the stranglehold of solitude. Whether it is to (re)find a social life absent in one’s daily life, to share a passion or to have an attentive and benevolent ear, the relationship can lead to a physical meeting or remain virtual. Virtual friends are accessible almost instantaneously and it is very easy to separate from them. So, you are FREE ! This virtual barrier allows both sociable and introverted people to express themselves because we are more inclined to confide in a stranger far from our real environment. And this relationship allows you to escape from your daily life and regain self-confidence.
An effective construction of friendship
Friendship is a soul in two bodies (Aristotle)
The need for friends is intimate. It emanates from a desire to exchange with a soul close to one’s own in order to feel understood, supported and invigorated. For that, the physical meeting is not an obligation, only your feeling counts. It is in this sense that the friendly meeting on Internet is the most appropriate means to your search.
Thanks to the virtual barrier, prejudices linked to physical appearance are banished, exchanges are spontaneous and sincere, free of interest and emotions are multiplied tenfold. Because when we expect nothing, we are not disappointed and we express ourselves in a more liberated way.
Know that a true friendship is built with time, it can take several years to confirm the affinities born and to enter into more intimate confidences. On the Internet, as in real life, you must always remember to protect yourself, not to say too much at the beginning of the exchanges. Indeed, the search for friendship as for love is a game of patience. A friendly relationship is built according to the same steps as a love relationship because friendship is a form of love, a feeling that touches us deep inside. If you are very lucky, you may even meet a friendly love at first sight… Yes, it exists and it is as strong as a love at first sight.
Finally, unlike the love encounter, you are not obliged to physically meet the other person. A friend is a presence, whether real or virtual. What counts is sincerity, respect, understanding and listening, not physicality!
So, you can simply choose to keep your secret garden and let this virtual relationship separate from your daily real life. This can even be a good thing because a virtual friend will have an objective look at your life and will normally give good advice.
More if affinities… ?
Love is like friendship: it is, so to speak, its madness. (Seneca)
Developing a deep friendship on the Internet can lead to wanting to go further. It is a natural feeling but it is better not to transform this beautiful friendship into love at the risk of ruining everything. It is not because you have a strong complicity with the person that it will be the same in couple car expectations are different and change the relationship. And worse, to bring cupid between you might separate you permanently.
When it comes to love feelings, men and women are different: women are very sentimental and use their emotional intelligence more in love attraction. This is why they are likely to be seduced by their virtual friend and tend to idealize him/her. However, if they realize that the romantic relationship is unsuccessful, they may revert to the original friendship. On the other hand, a man, in general, from the moment he sees a love opening, will not be able to return to a friendly relationship and if the love relationship does not satisfy him (either physically or mentally) he will have difficulties in seeing the other as a friend.
Our advice: ideally, a deep friendship started on the Internet should remain friendly and remain virtual. Love has more flowers, friendship has fewer thorns. (French Proverb)