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iorestoacasa but I’m single: short survival guide to quarantining alone
Whether you are single by choice or by accident, quarantine is not an easy or fun time to spend at home alone.
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If the best part of being single in fact is the most total freedom to move around and manage your free time, the Decree to slow down Coronavirus contagions is diametrically opposed and limits both to exasperation.
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Sure, you don’t risk couple crises due to forced h24 cohabitation within four walls, which could put a strain on even the most solid relationships, nor do you have the same problem as those who, not living under the same roof, risk not seeing each other for who knows how long.
But communal ill will is good for the spirit up to a point.
Much better to react.
Here’s how.
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It’s a good time to download Tinder
Put qualms to rest, now that no one can leave the house you no longer have an excuse to feel ashamed (if that was what was holding you back from creating an account) or prejudiced about the quality of dating you do online.
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The online one is the only social reality available right now, so you might as well try it.
** For the duration of the quarantine on Tinder you will be able to meet people from cities other than the one you are in **
If it works out for you maybe you will even find your soul mate, if not you will still have spent the time in a fun way, you will have exponentially increased your chances of meeting new people and you will be practicing courtship for when we can finally go out again.
Swimmers before diving do warm-ups out of the water, right?
Beware of exes resurfacing
There’s nothing like boredom to make the column scroll to the worst exes you’ve ever had, all ready to heat up virtual soups to pass the time for better times.
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Be careful, though, because if it’s a harmless pastime for you too, there’s nothing to stop you from giving it some rope and following up, but if you’re hoping to take advantage of the situation to rebuild a now-lost relationship you’d do well to make things clear right away and not create dangerous illusions for yourself.
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If he had wanted to write to you because he missed you he would not have waited for a pandemic.
Don’t give up socializing
The good fortune of those who are single is that they are (on average) better at knowing how to be well alone.
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The weeks we are talking about this time, however, are just too many, and unless we are monks accustomed to seclusion we will probably all suffer a bit from loneliness.
Don’t let it overwhelm you: prevent it.
Organize appetizers and group videocall dinners with friends, make phone appointments for lunch with mom and dinner with a friend, initiate a video call on WhatsApp and put the phone down in front of you.
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It won’t be like a de visu date, but it will resemble it and get you back on track.
And then heaven forbid someone in the group adds a participant you don’t know to the happy hour on Houseparty.
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