Jealousy is bad for the couple (and your mood): here’s why and how to stop
Jealousy is a deep feeling that can get to the point of eroding the relationship.
If you and your partner are jealous in a sensible way, in fact, this will add a useful pinch of chili pepper to feel desired; the problem emerges when jealousy becomes disproportionate to the situation and restricts personal freedom with prohibitions, impositions or guilt.
In this case it can become a dangerous obstacle.
Insecurities emerge in the couple that do not actually belong to the other but to one’s own emotional world that will inevitably affect the relationship.
We explain how and why you should learn to handle it to save the relationship and yourself.
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Jealousy makes you unhappy
Research conducted at the University of Copenhagen confirms this.
Researchers showed how jealous people, for example, who check their partner’s Facebook wall and private messages on their partner’s Facebook profile, experience moments of stress and discomfort that only exacerbate jealousy.
Turn off your phones and devote that time to your real relationship.
It hurts those who experience it
Being jealous takes a lot of energy.
Jealousy is about suspicion, doubt, control, and the need for constant confirmation, which if disregarded puts one in crisis.
Precisely for this reason the chronically jealous person as soon as he finds the confirmations he seeks will probably create more doubts that will feed the circle of frustration.
To break the chain try to understand what meaning you give to jealousy.
Being able to manage jealousy means being able to establish the boundary between self and other.
Very jealous people have difficulty perceiving these boundaries, and if insecurity takes over, the relationship can come out bruised.
Going beyond boundaries presupposes a violation of personal freedom that can become counterproductive and destructive for both partners.
If you don’t get to the bottom of it, jealousy could ruin your relationships.
The best way to look this feeling in the face is to give it meaning.
You can talk about it with your partner to try to figure out how you can best deal with this side that often puts a strain on you.
If, on the other hand, you find that it is difficult to find a solution as a couple, you can turn to a therapist who can help you get to the origins of the malaise.
If you do deep work on yourself you can finally enjoy your relationship.