Why don’t men court anymore? The answer from psychology
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Love at 20, 30, 40 and 50 : focus
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Whether we are short or tall, female or male, rich or poor, young or old, we are all looking for the same thing at some point in our lives: someone to love and who loves us back. Only, even if the goal remains the same, the paths to take and the means used to reach it differ throughout our existence. So how do we go about it? How do we find our way in the middle of this sentimental mess that is life?
I’m talking about a time that people over 20 can’t know…
La bohème! Ah, to be 20 years old and already looking for love is not easy. Especially in a consumer society like ours where we prefer to throw away rather than repair and this even on the side of the heart! At 20 years old, it’s hard to already know yourself well, and yet it’s an important thing when you’re looking for your loved one. But as our friend Albert Camus said in his great wisdom: If you don’t know what you want, at least know what you don’t want. Yes, at 20 years old, it is out of the question to impose useless constraints on yourself! Don’t try to give up this or that college for beautiful eyes that might not look at you for so long! At that age you have plenty of time to experiment to get to know yourself better and to know what you like and what you don’t. Don’t close any doors, you have plenty of time to start a family and take on the responsibilities that go with it.
It’s great to be thirty…
You have time to see old age and torments coming, as another singer said! Indeed, at 30, you are already more asserted, more stabilized professionally and personally. You are beginning to have a certain apprehension of things which avoids you many galleys, and that also works in love! The plans that you might have had a few years earlier with certain people are no longer tempting you, but not at all, and that’s good! Moreover, the people you might meet are more serious and it becomes much simpler to project yourself!
And 40… Almost as much time as it takes to count to 1 billion out loud!
Impressive, no? It’s wonderful 40 years! At this age it’s far from over for the heart! Don’t listen to all those advertisers who want to make us feel like we’re the only ones in the world.To believe that it is necessary to be hardly pubescent to find love! Love at 40 is a daily renewal, it is an age when we are less bothered by social conventions that weigh us down. And we bloom only better! You have an experience that defines you and helps you make your choices, you finally know what you want or don’t want.
What about at 50?
Ah, because you thought it was over? Well, think again! That’s when it all starts! At 50, you still have the right and the duty to be loved, but be careful, to be loved for what you are! You have to trust yourself, you have made the turn of all your weaknesses and your strengths, it only remains to find this person with whom to share them. Stay yourself, that’s how you are the best!
