Why don’t men court anymore? The answer from psychology
Are you wondering why men don’t court anymore? Actually, you have a point: unfortunately, courtship lately is often skipped in...
mantra to put in your head to have a better love life
There are phrases that if repeated very often can define your destiny; there are negative self-malignments that make you clam up and positive mantras that, on the contrary, can change, or at least improve, the way you view reality.
Of course, this will not make a prince charming materialize under your door, but at least it will protect you from negative stories and unnecessary self-flagellations.Start thinking differently and you will see that everything will seem easier, even starting to love in a healthy way again and without being afraid of it.
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Happiness does not depend on your weight
The cause of all your ills is not carbs, it is not the pizza you ate last night or the fact that you do not have a marble bottom.
Of course, it doesn’t mean you don’t have to take care of yourself, but being perpetually on a diet won’t get you a boyfriend any sooner; on the contrary, a woman who doesn’t enjoy food is just sadder and more nervous.
Eat a sandwich once in a while, you will definitely see that you will be happier.The Future Brings Good Things
The future is not a door to a dark path or a room that is scary because it is unknown; it should not scare you because you do not know what it will be like but it should make you happy because it is like a blank sheet of paper, which you can fill in and color to your liking.
If you think it will never be better than that you will be content with everything that passes you by, like a hungry dog; if, on the contrary, you think it brings only good things, you will go forward armed with a beautiful smile.
You can be happy
And only you can truly decide to be happy.
You don’t need someone to come along and save you, you don’t need half the apple, you are already your own apple and you can choose to be you the only real person who can make you happy.
How? By stopping hurting yourself, by stopping giving others the power to mortify you or change your mood, by learning to choose the things that are good for you and avoid the things that are bad for you.
If you choose to be happy you will see that someone who wants to walk with you will come along sooner or later. In the meantime, have fun.
It’s never too late
Stop telling yourself that you have missed the train, that all your high school friends are now engaged, that the more time passes the harder it is to find someone and that you are now destined to remain forever and ever an old maid.
If you tell yourself this every day it will probably be so, but if you start to think that you have had a time with yourself, that you needed to get to know yourself more, that maybe now you have more awareness and are a better version of you and no, time passing does not scare you, then it will never be too late.
Those who don’t want you don’t deserve you
It’s not a B-movie or chocolate phrase, it’s something you should always remember.
There are no princes charming to chase or womanizers being rescued by clueless little girls, you shouldn’t chase someone who isn’t there or give space to those who don’t want your space.
To be together you need only two things, will and a common project, the rest are just romance justifications and waste your time.
You are not weird, you are special
Don’t let someone define you, don’t let someone tell you how you should be other, you are different because you are alive and unique but like every person on this earth.
Don’t start thinking that being single is some kind of inability to love, that if you haven’t been in a lasting relationship for a long time then you have some problem.
The risk is to feel sorry for yourself, but that is definitely not the best way, be proud of your quirks, there will exist someone who will like them a lot, especially if you like them in the meantime.
If one relationship has failed, they don’t all have to fail
Life goes on even if a story ends, failing in love is not a crime that is punished with death, it has happened to everyone, some more and some less, and that doesn’t mean you have to disown your past but neither does it mean you are destined to do so forever.
Seeking confirmation of continued failure will not make you suffer less, it will not make you suffer less, so you might as well take a chance, after all, those who fail the most are only those who have tried, lived, loved the most.And it will be worth it in the end.
You are beautiful
Looking for validation in others will make you incredibly insecure and incredibly fragile, you are beautiful and you must take care to tell yourself that every morning, by yourself.
If you think you are beautiful and special, you will not compromise, you will not be belittled, you will not go in search of toxic relationships, which can only hurt you, you will go forward with your head held high, proud, and you will see that this will make you walk into a future full of color and always smelling like spring.
