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Mistakes that could wreck your relationship
Your love is strong and solid until your partner begins to point out problems that you had never paid attention to.
This happens because we often behave automatically; we have a hard time focusing on ourselves because it is much easier to notice others’ shortcomings than our own.
Instead, if you learn to focus on what you do, it will be easier to realize mistakes that affect the couple but can still be managed.
As the saying goes, it is better to be safe than sorry.
Here are the 4 most common mistakes people make when they break up.
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When you are unjustifiably jealous
Jealousy is the queen of mistakes that could end a relationship.
It is not so much a matter of being jealous of a partner who has shown appreciation toward someone (in which case you would have every right to be vocal) but of accusing possible cheating without any real basis.
In the long run, this kind of attitude will be burdensome and counterproductive, so much so that your partner may end up satisfying your paranoia.
When you do not trust
If you do not trust your partner, it will be much easier for your relationship to come to a standstill.
Lack of trust will lead you to be suspicious of everything, make you doubt his words, and put question marks where there is no need.
This could create an atmosphere of tension that would end up overshadowing all the positive aspects you have cultivated together.
If you do not say what you feel
Silences are highly detrimental to a relationship.
If you start avoiding telling him or her this or that for whatever reason, it will create an emotional distance that is difficult to recover.
Fear that your partner will pull away or cannot accept your reactions may hold you back from being who you really are, and you will thus come across as inauthentic.
Challenge yourself; often this attitude implies fears only of you and not of your partner.
If you neglect the relationship
If you neglect the couple, rest assured that the other will notice and then it may already be difficult to catch up.
Pay attention to priorities: work rhythms and social commitments can overwhelm the everyday.
In fact, we may not realize that we are neglecting the most important relationships, the ones we take for granted but which, contrary to what we think, do not live a life of their own. They need care.
Run for cover, you can still do a lot to save the relationship.
