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Non-cohabiting couple: life as a couple, each in their own home
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They love each other but have decided to live separately
Thousands of men and women have chosen this way of living together. This formula tends to seduce new lovers who refuse the version of the traditional couple, where the daily routine could settle too quickly for their taste. But this new fashion could be more representative of our society than we think. In fact, loving each other from a distance also means preserving one’s freedom and remaining at home, without having to make any compromises.
Unfortunately today, nobody wants to sacrifice their personal development on the altar of the couple. So in the end, is this the new ideal in love or just a kind of excuse for those who find it hard to commit?
All fire
Indeed, living apart allows us to preserve those moments of solitude that are so important to us sometimes, without hurting the other person’s sensitivity. However, can we really reconcile distance and all the qualities required of the perfect loving and caring companion?
It’s a fact that autonomy does not lead to estrangement, but rather creates bonds in most relationships. As a result, when lovers who do not live under the same roof see each other, they tend to be much more available to each other. They are more relaxed and enjoy their time together more easily. Problems take a back seat and desire often takes over!
This increased desire comes from the fact that two people going out together without putting themselves in a household and often see each other between two appointments or unexpectedly, therefore, live day to day like two young students. The surprise and the unexpected are at the heart of these relationships.
Hard on joint projects!
Only… There’s a hitch that you’ve probably seen looming on the horizon for some time. What do you do when one of the two lovebirds no longer finds his or her place in such a love scheme? The perfect plan can turn out to be a real hell in the long run.
Indeed, it can be exhausting to manage each other’s agendas, missed or unsatisfactory appointments as well as the little pleasures of everyday life. Moreover, a physical separation often means a lack of involvement from each of them in each other’s projects. And when this situation is no longer chosen but suffered, the daily life of such a relationship can become very heavy to bear. It should not be forgotten that some couples fail to love each other on their own…
