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questions to ask a girl to seduce her
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Seduction being a delicate art, you must choose your words well to flirt with a girl. Above all, you must not be shy and dare to make the first step to find love. This applies to the questions you ask to start a discussion and talk with a single girl to know her better. So here are some avenues to explore to start a discussion and capture her attention.
What’s your dream job?
Her current education or profession may not indicate what she really wants to do later. By asking her about it, you will get an answer that gives clues about her priorities. Indeed, some professions leave very little room for a couple’s life, while others still allow for juggling a good career and a fulfilling family. It’s a bit like asking her what her ideal life is: a couple with or without children, frequent travel, the place of money in her happiness…
What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever been?
By asking her this question, you’re taking her back to her most beautiful memories. She will then be able to tell you about her travels by mentioning places and or activities that she really enjoyed. Pay attention because it allows you to discover the things that interest her. Moreover, you should not hesitate to ask her why she preferred one destination to another if she has traveled a lot.
It is an open door to many subjects that offer her the opportunity to indulge herself, to feel the interest you have for her. On your side, you avoid too classic questions that will make you discover her favorite food, the kind of place where you could eventually invite her if you manage to get a first date and so on.
What would you choose if you could only take one thing with you to a desert island?
This is a good alternative to the famous what matters most to you in life? A phone or a computer would allow him to keep in touch with his loved ones. A book could educate her or immerse her in her favorite universe such as science fiction, romance, suspense…
If she chooses a weapon, it might be for protection or for hunting. In short, her answer will reflect her personality. If you come across a fille who has a sense of humor, his must-have item may surprise you!
Can you describe your ideal day?
We don’t necessarily do what we want to do during our day. So, this seemingly innocuous question will win you a point. Getting her to talk about her ideal day according to her vision of things is to invite her to reveal to you what she would like to do, what she might like to do and what she likes least. You will avoid blunders if you get a date.
What are you most afraid of?
Here again, you create a breach to learn more about her personality and this is a good sign and allows you to seduce. Some girls are afraid to go out without makeup, others fear death. There are also those who absolutely dread not being the best at what they do, those who are afraid of solitude, insects, the dark, people… You will then know if you are talking to a confident girl, a (too) independent girl, a superficial girl, a girl who shows humanity, etc.
What do you do in your spare time?
Everyone has spare time. However, we don’t all use it in the same way. Bringing up the subject allows you to fill up on positive emotions since she will imagine what she likes, what is important in her life. You are fully focused on her person and girls usually appreciate this approach.
Optionally, you can be more direct by asking her how she plans her next weekend or vacation. Be careful not to imply that you are trying to get into her free time!
You and sports, it’s a story that works?
Of course, you’re not recruiting an athlete, but you can always find out how she maintains her body and mind. Yoga, swimming, trekking, rugby, weight training… her answer may indicate what she is looking for in practicing a given discipline. If you’re in the same sport, it’s a great starting point for interesting conversations.
Or, you can ask her to explain a little more about what makes her favorite sport so appealing. If it turns out that she’s not into sports at all, she might be more into culture, food, digital…There are always avenues to explore.
Can you tell me the story of your tattoo?
If her profile picture reveals a tattoo (or a rather special piece of jewelry), you can very well ask her about its meaning. It might be related to her story, her dreams, the values she holds dear and more.
According to you, what is your best quality and your biggest flaw?
This is a question that helps you understand the idea she has of herself but also the criteria on which she evaluates others. If she talks to you about physical qualities/flaws, then this is the subject on which she can judge you. In the same way, if she mentions a character, a way of being… this reveals the areas she values most.
Would you like to continue this discussion over a drink?
If you know her favorite drink or type of food she likes, state it directly in the question. This way you are letting her know that you are retaining the information she has given you, which shows that you are seriously interested in her. As an option, you can ask her out on a first date by offering to introduce her to a food or drink that you like but that she has never had the opportunity to try. The way you phrase the question depends entirely on your previous exchanges.Here is a beautiful anthology of questions that can seduce and attract a girl. Keep in mind that your interlocutor can return them to you. You should therefore plan your own answers to help her discover your visions, your values and especially your personality. You can also find our article on the questions to ask a guy to seduce him if you want to know more.
