Secrets to having a long, healthy and happy relationship

June 14, 2023

4 min read

You know those visibly and extremely happy couples of whom you can’t help but wonder what their secret is?

Well, although the meaning of perfect relationship varies from person to person, there are indeed secrets behind successful relationships.

They have nothing to do with the choice of mate, but more to do with the relationship that exists between the two people involved; that is, how the two people treat each other and how they feel about each other.

Here then are revealed the secrets to having a healthy and long relationship with one’s partner.

**8 missteps not to make at the beginning of a relationship (if you want it to last)**

The 6 secrets to a long, healthy and happy relationship

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Emotional investment

Having a relationship takes a lot of work and time. Having a healthy and lasting relationship requires even more work and more time. It can in fact be very difficult.

The first, and perhaps the most important, ingredient for a successful relationship is 100% emotional investment.

Both partners must be fully invested in the relationship, otherwise there is no reason to even try.

2. Have common interests

It is true that opposites attract, but it is also true that you need to be able to share your interests with your partner.

Spending quality time together is essential.

The what to do is not so much important, but just being together and doing something that you both enjoy is crucial. This will help you build a stronger relationship.

So try to cultivate common interests, find out about your partner’s hobbies and interests, be open to learning something new, and share your ideas about activities to do together.

**Fighting is good for the couple (science says so)**

Being kind

Being kind is one of the easiest gifts you can offer each other in a relationship. Why then is it sometimes difficult to be kind to your partner all the time?

When we know our partners all too well and spend a lot of time together, perhaps because we live with them, we tend to downplay the importance of small acts of kindness in everyday life.

But being kind in the simplest ways, perhaps making dinner together, doing laundry for the other person or surprising them with small gifts, will definitely give your relationship a big boost.

Such simple acts of kindness are one of the most practical tips for a healthy relationship.

The best relationships are those in which your partner is also your best friend. Those in which you are open and honest with each other.

In a successful relationship you are not afraid to share parts of yourself with your partner. A strong sense of security and trust is necessary to share secrets with each other; secrets that reveal your greatest interests, desires, dreams, and disappointments.

Being vulnerable increases intimacy and strengthens relational bonding.

**Does he call you teddy bear? Good! You have a better chance of a happy relationship**

5. Talk (a lot) and listen (even more)

Good and sincere communication with each other is the key to all successful relationships; whether romantic, platonic or even work-related.

Trust blossoms when people feel free to talk but also heard and understood.

Listening means showing attention, care, and respect toward the other person. But to truly listen, one has to give total attention and maybe even put aside one’s own idea and desires.

6. Interdependence and independence

In every successful relationship there must be a between interdependence and independence.

It is important for partners to feel that they can depend on each other for closeness, comfort, and security; however, one should not become too dependent on the other person.

A level of personal independence is necessary, because if you rely too much on your partner there is a risk that he or she will begin to feel suffocated.

147251Because to be well in a couple one must first be well alone**

Brodie Denham

Writer