Signs to tell if he is cheating on you
The vague suspicion that you have been betrayed is one of the worst feelings in the world, which can only get worse if you have an inkling that the affair is still going on.
It may feel like the ground is collapsing right under you: you wonder if you are imagining everything and question everything you thought you knew about your relationship.
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But how can you tell if he is really cheating on you?
But how can you tell if your partner is telling the truth or lying by trying to cover his tracks?
Often the warning signs of infidelity are very subtle and difficult to identify. The best way to know the truth for sure is confirmation from the other person.
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That said, simply hoping for a confession will not soothe the frantic worries in your head first.
Here, then, are some of the signs to watch for to see if there really has been cheating.
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He is distracted
If your partner barely seems to look you in the eye, or if you find yourself repeating things back to him because he is not listening to you, then this could be an early sign of betrayal.
Those who cheat are in fact often disconnected from the relationship in many ways.
For example, pay particular attention if there is always something distracting him while you are talking, if he always has a reason to be on the phone during the hours you spend together, or if he cancels your appointments.
Obviously all of this can happen from time to time, but if your partner is constantly distracted and uninvolved in the relationship then there is likely something going on.
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2. Never getting off your phone
Disclaimer: Some people are seriously addicted to their phones and take them with them wherever they go, out of habit or boredom.
However, the problem arises if your partner suddenly starts following this behavior.
If he is on his phone much more than usual, he may simply be busy with work emails or he may have downloaded a new app.
To find out what it is and know if he is cheating on you, try casually asking him what he is doing when he has his phone in his hand.
His reaction will tell you a lot about whether or not he might be cheating.
Does he or she focus more on his or her appearance
Has your partner never been an appearance freak, and now, out of the blue, he or she spends more time in front of the mirror than you?
From changing her hairstyle, to her recent gym fixation, to compulsively buying new clothes. These can be small signs that he is cheating on you.
Of course, it could also simply be a new purpose, or the more general desire to be liked, but it is important to know that when people cheat, they are more aware of their appearance and tend to take better care of it.
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4. He is reluctant to make large joint purchases
You’ve been talking about buying a car or a house for months but he just won’t hear of it?
Although it is possible that your partner’s hesitation is only due to financial problems, it can also be a sign that they are cheating, especially if the financial issue was not an issue in the past.
A major commitment, such as buying a house together, makes it harder to get out of a relationship quickly-explained psychologist Ramani Durvasula, author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?
If your partner gets weird when you talk about big joint purchases, don’t be afraid to ask what’s behind their hesitation.
If they get nervous and it’s not about money, know that something is wrong.
5. He tells you everything (in an exaggerated way)
You asked him how the office party was and he rattled off the entire guest list, all the hors d’oeuvres that were served, and a minute-by-minute account of what happened? Red flag!
Liars talk too much, says Durvasula, adding, When we tell the truth, we tend to be concise because it comes easily.
Cheaters, as well as traitors, often create long narratives and stories full of details about where they have been and what they did that day to try to create an alibi for themselves.
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6. Or, he stops sharing his life with you
If out of the blue, to your question How was your day? he answers only fine (whereas he used to tell you more) he may beAnd the time to worry.
Indeed, for those who cheat, the most interesting aspects of their day may be about the new flirt. Reason why they cut your questions short and do not answer them as they used to do before.
This can often be more devastating than sexual infidelity, as it implies that the intimacy of daily life is now being shared with someone new.
7. Suddenly has new hobbies (or taste in music)
Do they bungee jump but were previously afraid of heights? Or suddenly start listening to classical music when they only ever loved heavy metal?
Of course, they could simply be expanding their horizons, but it is more likely that such a radical change indicates their desire to try to impress their new flame by finding hobbies or common interests.
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8. Fills you with gifts
Do you receive gifts all the time? Then he is cheating on you. It is a cliché, but it is also often the truth.
If he buys you gifts unexpectedly or starts helping you to and doing more around the house, such as ironing, washing, or getting hands on those little do-it-yourself jobs that have been left unfinished for months, it’s probably not because he’s changed and realized your needs overnight.
In reality it is simply guilt.
9. You have more (or less) sex than before
If your partner is attracted to another woman and has relations with her, it is likely that he will also change the way he has sex with you.
When some men cheat they end up not wanting to have sex with their partner anymore, because this may even make them feel like they are cheating on the other person.
Others, however, are driven by a desire to have more sex when they cheat.
So if you notice a sudden change in the couple’s libido, pay attention because it could be a sign that he is cheating on you.
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10. Remember that your instincts are (almost) never wrong
This does not apply to people who are overly jealous in general, and therefore prone to suspicion at any time.
However, if your instincts tell you that yourpartner is cheating on you, it probably really is.
You are not clairvoyants, but your brain is processing the nonverbal signals you pick up day after day (even when you don’t realize it).
Of course, there could always be a simple and plausible explanation for a change in your partner’s behavior that has nothing to do with cheating.
However, it is good to ask yourself and the other person some questions.