SOS we don’t make love anymore: quick guide to rekindle passion
There are couples where (seemingly) everything seems to be going swimmingly.
Partners love each other, support each other, do activities together, there is understanding and sharing but … sex is missing.
When intimacy thins out to the point where we can’t remember the last time we had sex then we start to ask questions.
Why is this crucial part of the relationship missing? Declining desire can be a consequence of many factors but in any case it should be a sign to pay attention to.
We give you tips to help your couple and rekindle passion in bed.
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Do not ignore the problem
The number one mistake of those who realize they have this difficulty is not to talk about it.
However, the partner who keeps this thought to himself only fuels it.
Ask yourself why you are not sharing it with him/her.
Perhaps you are afraid of hurting him/her? Or have you realized that the difficulty is really coming from you?
Either way, talking about it and understanding what is going on can help you gain clarity together.
Ignoring difficulties will not make them go away.
Start from scratch (literally)
If sex is not going in the couple, you can set up body rediscovery games.
It may sound paradoxical, but try it this way: for a time promise never to go further but only to use oils and creams to pamper your partner’s body.
The goal should be to rediscover the pleasure of touch and the senses.
Erotic play will first bring you closer to each other’s skin and then who knows, let go of the libido.
Often people do not have sex because they are overwhelmed by routine, so much so that even pleasure turns into a boring duty.
This happens especially to couples who have been together for years and are now familiar with the sexual dynamic.
It’s time to liven things up. Impress your partner by approaching it in a different way than usual.
Just sensing a fresh start will stimulate curiosity to move forward to find out what will happen.
Use your imagination, there is certainly no shortage of ideas in this area, and it can take little to accomplish much.
Instead of complaining why don’t you get involved yourself?
Often we tend to blame the other person for not getting the right attention or not sensing longing and romance so…what if we were the ones implementing what we would like from the other person?
Set aside stereotypes and genders, buy a nice bouquet of flowers for your partner for no reason and write a teasing note that will help warm the atmosphere.
In short, create the situation to strike that spark that will serve to light the fire.