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The advantages of slow dating for finding love in the days of Covid
Slow dating is a trend, opposite to speed dating, that has caught on over the past year as a response to the need to find love in Covid times, and that is exactly what it sounds like.
Rather than rushing headlong into a new relationship, with slow dating we get to know each other better and build a connection before we even meet in person.
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We had already gotten a bit into it, but for more than a year now, the coronavirus has shifted all of our online dating while changing the rules of online dating at the same time.
Indeed, the rapidity of the swipe or the possibility of contact with several different people outside our circle of friends has been matched by the patience of having to wait perhaps weeks at a time before we can actually meet even in person.
According to Jemma Ahmed, Head of Insights at the dating app Bumble, the result is that People are starting to get to know themselves a lot more and, as a result, are taking the time to figure out who is and is not right for them.
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Slow dating has (at least) 6 upsides, besides being the best viable way to look for love during the pandemic.
How to find love in the time of Covid by taking advantage of slow dating
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Less swiping but deeper conversations
Goodbye to parallel chats with dozens of profiles and welcome meaningful conversations.
Not being able to meet physically anytime soon has helped singles, especially younger ones, rediscover the magic of courtship and take time to really get to know someone. As the world went into lockdown, millions of millennials used these months as an opportunity to develop a deep relationship with an online partner.
People engage in talking and getting to know each other on a deeper level before they meet, making sure they have a connection and feel confident that they want to take the next step.
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2. Slow dating improves self-esteem
The world of relationships and dating is undoubtedly linked to a person’s self-esteem.
You are putting yourself out there-your photos, your personality, your conversation; essentially asking to be liked.
Slow dating, however, is less judgmental: the other person takes the time to really consider you, rather than comparing you to all the profiles of many other people they just saw.
3. Conversations are better
The problem with most online dating sites or apps is that you normally end up talking to many people at once.
Slow dating, on the other hand, allows you to focus on one conversation or a few conversations at a time, undoubtedly improving the quality of those conversations.
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Dating is less stressful
If you talk to fewer people, you are more likely to interact with them on a more personal level.
This will allow you to go on the first date already knowing a lot about the person in front of you, thus taking away that awkwardness between strangers.
As a result, it is easier to relax and find a connection with the other person.
In addition, recent research has shown that nearly half of women (49%) enrolled in dating apps were disappointed by the lack of chemistry during a live date. Having a decent conversation beforehand, however, makes it easier to notice a potential spark or connection, or lack thereof.
5. Opens horizons
Slow dating can encourage us to consider men (and women) who are not quite our type.
By receiving a few matches a day, maybe even just one, we are naturally more intrigued by the other person, regardless of what they look like.
We are therefore likely to go exploring the profile of the match, glossing over the first and immediate aesthetic impact, and taking a deeper look at the person and his or her interests.
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6. Slow dating saves time
Anything that might seem like time wasted getting to know each other before they see each other or can start a relationship in person is actually time well spent.
Aside from dozens of first dates with people we are not sure are compatible with us in character or romantic/relational interest, getting to know each other better before meeting will allow people who have already virtually passed a number of key tests.
