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The importance of having a common project in a couple
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Whether you’ve been with your sweetheart for 15 years or two months, having common projects is more than important. It is one of the foundations of a couple. Without them, neither of the two beings concerned will be able to project themselves in the future. We sometimes hear phrases like Love is not enough and as violent and badly said as it may seem, it is true!
Why is it so important to have a common project?
First of all, it is important to know that it is not the feeling of love that makes a couple last but the project of the couple. It is indeed very difficult to consider living the rest of your life with someone who does not share any of your desires. However, you should not panic immediately if your spouse does not want to settle down with you for the moment, for example.
If it’s just a postponement of a project it doesn’t mean that there are no plans for the future. On the contrary… It is better to be prepared before making such choices. This will save you from going through the haven’t we gone a little too fast stage, which is, let’s face it, rather unpleasant in itself. On the other hand, if it’s not a question of a simple postponement but of the personality of the person you love and if things are taking longer and longer to materialize, it would be a lie to hope that you will be able to change his or her mind.
Our projects are often a reflection of who we are, our hopes or even the direction we wish to take. That’s why it’s so important to be in agreement with each other! Doing this kind of project together allows us to imagine ourselves in the future and therefore to make the couple much more stable. So whether you go to the far end of the Franche-Comté with your alter-ego for the vacations or you sign for a studio, these events are key steps in the life of your couple. It proves that both parties are ready to commit to the well-being of their lives together!
The risks of the common projects on the long term…
Only to make projects is not enough to make last the couple, because it is necessary that they are not made for bad reasons. Indeed, if your desire to settle down with your darling comes from this need that you have to leave your parents’ house, you will run to the disaster!
Same for this desire to make a child when your couple beats the wing. PassAfter the excitement of the birth, problems and unspoken words will come to the fore when your child needs both parents to be together! Before any project, ask yourself the right questions together…
