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Things that women do (thinking they are tender) and men hate
It is known that the two sexes do not always see reality in the same way.
Girls and boys think very differently about many different issues, from soccer to romance to how they deal with everyday problems.
After all, if John Gray’s best seller, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus has sold over 15 million copies, there must be a reason.
Among the many topics on which the two planets are not at all aligned are the things women think are cute and sweet that men hate.
For example, we are convinced that stealing sweatshirts from the guys we hang out with is cute. But in reality, many of them are strongly irritated by it.
Not only that, they also hate being subjected to unsolicited beauty treatments, (all) Snapchat ear filters, and many other things.
Here are the 7 things women do thinking they are held most detested by men.
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When we steal their clothes
At least once in our lives we have all stolen a sweatshirt or T-shirt from our boyfriends.
For some of us, however, the looting activity is particularly assiduous and continuous.
The technique used for this type of theft is very simple: with any excuse – cold weather and having forgotten our pajamas at home are the most quoted – we appropriate the desired item.
Our boys gladly concede it to us in an act of chivalry, with the (completely unfounded) certainty that the garment will be returned. Of course they are deluding themselves; they will never get it back. Probably not even after the relationship ends.
So many of us have a collection of clothes that belonged to different generations of ex-boyfriends. Often these garments remain at our parents’ house, ending up in the wardrobe of mothers and siblings, who walk around the house wearing the T-shirts of Marco, Gianluca…
For us, it’s a nice thing: we steal our partners’ sweatshirts to have something of theirs with us all the time. But (some of) them hate it and would just like to have their clothes back.
When we do the little voices
It doesn’t matter if we are tough or not. Each of us has moments when we let go completely to give free rein to tenderness.
And if we sometimes experience this in front of puppies-both animal and human-it also happens that tenderness assails us when we are with our boyfriends, even making us change our voices to talk to them as if they were infants.
Often the change in tone is also accompanied by unlikely nicknames.
We think it is a tender thing; after all, it is the language of love. However, many of our classmates disagree: often when we talk to them as if they were kittens they would like to disappear.
When we give them bites and pinches
The fact that we can’t stop before we unleash micro-violence-from clamps to pinches to squeezing hugs-has a scientific name.
It is called cute aggression and is a phenomenon that psychology explains thus: when faced with an overdose of tenderness, the brain tries to save itself by counteracting a mildly aggressive reaction.
One can have cute aggression in front of any subject that arouses a wave of affection in us. So even our boys can experience one.
A sweet thing? Not for them, who can’t stand being bitten or squeezed and wish we were able to control our tender aggression attacks.
When we force them to take selfies with filters
We want to have lots of pictures with our kids. Shots of everyday life, of our vacations together, but also funny pictures.
How cute is our him with that wreath around his head? And how cute are we together with a mouse’s nose and ears?
For us to take such selfies is a very sweet thing. Almost all of our boyfriends, however, unfortunately couldn’t disagree more.
They generally hate taking pictures all the time. But even more so if with the (stupid) filters of Snapchat and Instagram Stories, which make them feel ridiculous.
When we order a little and then eat from their plate
Usually we girls are more obsessed with the line, so when we go to restaurants and it comes time to order, we tend to keep a profile bace.
Maybe at lunch we just have a salad, at dinner we limit ourselves to a main course, and even when it comes to drinks, we often don’t splurge: although we would gladly drink a couple of medium beers, we limit ourselves to a small one.
Our partners usually don’t give a damn about this frugality and indulge much more easily with their own gluttony. So at the pub they quietly order a couple of pints and at the restaurant the full dinner.
Obviously seeing such abundance at our own table, we feel compelled – but we would say almost obliged – to taste a few dishes. And since appetite comes with eating, we end up sharing our boyfriends’ dishes and drinks.
We find it sweet and even feel like we are doing them a favor by helping them finish all those courses. They, on the other hand, wonder why we insist on ordering only a salad when we then draw from their plate without qualms.
When we wear pet pajamas
Usually on first dates we aim for very sexy underwear outfits, perhaps newly purchased.
But when the relationship goes on and we feel more comfortable, we choose far more comfortable outfits to sleep with our partners.
At this stage we opt for big pajamas that in addition to being made of fleece-the anti-sex material par excellence-have childish-looking patterns, with animals, puppets, and cartoons that remind us of when we were little girls.
The truth is that we love them: in addition to being soft and comfortable, they are also super tender. What about our boyfriends? By now we already know the answer…
When we play beauticians
Plucking hairs out of context, removing peels, the most daring even attacking blackheads-if women find these activities enjoyable, guys (or at least the vast majority of them) hate playing beautician.
Some also say that they suffer a lot from undergoing our treatments but still always do it in silence: they know very well that to oppose it would be useless.
