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tricks for better sex (you will thank us)
Tricks for better sex are in abundance, but the truth is that you don’t need a lot of them: just a few tricks, in fact, are enough to disproportionately increase the quality of sexual intercourse.
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10 tricks to better sex
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Do sexting!
Words help a lot to increase pleasure. And desire.
For a truly throbbing hot session, get some sexting to help you precede the encounter.
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Is your partner about to come to your house? A few hours before, try writing passionate and sensual messages to him.
Sexting is the amorous-sexual art that is cultivated via smartphone: just text each other spicy things, wink in a very spicy way and tease your partner so that when he or she comes over you might as well start in medias res.
Don’t overdo it, though: leave a lot unsaid and a lot to the imagination, otherwise your libido will suffer.
Discovering unexplored erogenous zones
Exploring is the other pivotal verb of good sex. First and foremost to be discovered are the most sensitive parts of the body, the so-called erogenous zones.
Before getting to second base, that is, to caress the genitals, it is good to dwell on the less XXX ones. And in fact also less explored.
Nape of the neck, neck, shoulders, back, ears (and area behind the ear) and nipples are among the most receptive to pleasure, so walk the length and breadth of them.
In general, the entire skin is highly erogenous so probe all of it.
Always, always, always give compliments!
If it seems superfluous, know that you are very much mistaken.
Complimenting your partner in intimate moments is basic to the success of the relationship.
First of all, it makes the other person more secure, and feeling more secure also means letting go more…
Then it is also good for yourself because seeing the complacency in your better half’s eyes increases the ecstasy of the couple.
So never leave the pretty words and appreciations out of bed (or wherever you are making love).
Change the pace all the time
Changing the pace is also a secret to achieving pleasure more intensely. Beginning slowly, savoring each moment, and then moving to an increased and increasing speed is one way to experience maximum enjoyment.
The pace should not only increase as the intercourse progresses: change speed every few minutes, returning to an initial slowness after reaching a certain frenzy, then start again.
Try improvising as in jazz: act as if you were in the middle of a jam session and experiment with rhythms, sounds and speed.
Dirty talking? Only if done right
Some people like it and some people just don’t. In general, however, those who disdain it are because they have never tasted the right one, the one done right.
We are talking about dirty talking, about talking a little dirty and indecent.
By saying a few really hot things, going further and whispering unspeakable things out of the sheets, you can really increase the pleasure by leaps and bounds. The important thing, of course, is not to fall and lapse into triviality: no vulgarity for its own sake, zero wordsrandom acce.
You have to know how to construct a monologue or dialogue that touches the right points, just as you do to tease erogenous zones. In this sense it is good to get to know your partner intimately to know his fantasies, what he likes, and what his erogenous comfort zone is at the brain level.
Aim for your other half’s hidden desires, and the orgasm will be not only physical but also mental.
Welcome sex toys with open arms (alone and as a couple)
Sex toys are essential toys for a session of pure pleasure. Some people have never tried them (seriously: there are still people who have yet to handle one!) and, due to cultural heritage, there is a tendency to relegate them to the time of autoeroticism.
Actually vibrators, anal plugs, vibrating rings and so on are good friends of couple’s pleasure, not just masturbation pleasure.
According to a survey by LELO, a leading sex toy brand, only 18 percent of women achieve orgasm through penetration.
Fortunately, however, there are plenty of ways to achieve climax, and clitoral orgasm is by far the most popular.
And in this the sex toy can be a very valuable aid, even in couples, for a very fun toy for two.
(Pictured above is Lelo’s new ENIGMA sex toy, a dual-action clitoral massager that offers deep clitoral stimulation and G-spot vibration at the same time).
Knock out the senses temporarily
The senses, all five of them, are key players in sexual ecstasy. To enhance them, knock them out for a short time.
Close your eyes, blindfold yourself, plug your ears–try to temporarily hinder sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch and then suddenly reactivate them.
That momentary restraint that had blocked them will cause the sense-related sensation to explode, increasing the pleasure derived from exploration.
Listening to your partner’s breath, tasting tasting their skin, smelling them…
The five senses will be more receptive after a short period of seclusion. Try it to believe.
Do it in a forbidden place
The sense of the forbidden is always an intimate friend of arousal. So a forbidden location is very hot, this we know from Adam’s timeo and Eve.
The monotony of the bedroom and one’s home in general is a bitter enemy of a spicy sex life. So to break it up it is good to space it out.
Try a change of context, like at someone else’s house. A party at friends’? If the situation allows, sneak off to the bathroom and love each other in a domestic setting that isn’t your run-of-the-mill one.
Even in a dimly lit (and poorly attended) parking lot or a grove. Outdoors there is a lot to watch out for, though. To prowlers, voyeurs and even law enforcement: it is indeed indecent exposure so watch out.
However, you don’t have to have full intercourse in the forbidden places: a passionate kiss or some other sex-related amatory art is enough…
The important thing is to create a risky and exciting atmosphere that can then be relayed to more appropriate places, such as the bedroom.
Watch hot videos together
Somewhat like sex toys, hot videos are too often relegated to the moment of autoeroticism. Yet watching slightly spicy things together with your partner stimulates imagination and arousal.
A couple’s viewing of provocative material is in itself a kick-ass foreplay. Coincide it with actual foreplay as well and you will create a top incipit for sex.
Don’t be ashamed: in sexy times you need to bring out the slightly bawdy, dirty, kinky side that any of us carries inside.
Besides watching spicy material together, if the idea appeals to you try making sex videos yourself. It will be very stimulating and you can then watch those again.
Don’t expire on obvious things like strippers with provocative lingerie with a side order of dim lights, though: squeeze your brains and pull a sexy idea out of your hat, yes, but also elegant and creative.
Mimic the orgasm and-it will come!
A study revealed that when a woman mimics breathing and the sounds of orgasm, it comes more easily. In short: faking orgasm helps to actually achieve it!
So breathing deeply and emitting moans is the basis from which to get to the grand finale.
Deep, relaxing breaths also bring our attention back to the present moment, making us dwell on the sensations we are experiencing in the hic et nunc, in the here and now.
Exactamentity the place and time you will most enjoy being.
