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We broke up, now what? 4 practical tips for getting back on your feet when a story ends
How to recover when a story ends? Where do you start from to get back on your feet and begin a new life on your own?
As one gets older, and with it the type of relationship that has just ended, the matter becomes even more complicated, because what’s blown up are probably plans for the future, expectations, families of origin, and maybe even a home.
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All of which weigh on post-relationship feelings, whether you were the one who left or the one who was left.
Of course, leaving is easier because you have time to think about it first (about the aftermath), but either way it is not easy.
The only thing certain is that you want to start over, but you don’t know how.
Here are 4 practical tips for regaining serenity after the end of a love affair.
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How to recover when a story ends: start by clarifying your feelings
Every love relationship has its own story.
There are those who have broken up and are wondering how to start again, those who have been left and are struggling to figure out how to get out of the tunnel of suffering, and those who are still living on a roller coaster and would like to break this couple dynamic that no longer works.
In all cases, the common basis is to ask what one is feeling: anger? sadness? relief? emptiness?
Question the emotions you are feeling in order to see everything more clearly: this is the first, fundamental, step to getting back on your feet.
Don’t be in a hurry to get wellGetting well immediately without going through unpleasant feelings is unrealistic.
If in this relationship you have invested a part of you and put feelings into play, not only is it natural to deal-at least for a time-with painful emotions present in your mind, but giving them a way to vent is also an indispensable process for the brain.
Live these feelings and don’t be in a hurry.
In the process toward serenity, there is an obligatory passage through pain.
Turn your routine upside down and create a new one that is yours alone
After the end of a love affair, daily life changes; it is inevitable.
You will find yourself managing new rhythms and dusting off your resources that seemed buried.
If your routine has to change, you might as well upset it.
Start over with activities you enjoy, seek out new friendships, enroll in classes where you can make new relationships, take better care of your body, buy new clothes.
In one word, dare.
Be resourceful but also indulgent
All this internal movement involves a lot of effort but will make you rediscover a new part of you.
If you put yourself out there, be resourceful but also indulgent in all the bad moments, in small steps you will find yourself flourishing again.
In less time than you think, your relationship will take the form of a memory and an experience through which you will have known a fundamental part of your personality.
