Why don’t men court anymore? The answer from psychology
Are you wondering why men don’t court anymore? Actually, you have a point: unfortunately, courtship lately is often skipped in...
Why can’t I find love?
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Often, not meeting or achieving what is most important to us is due to an emotion that is difficult to control: fear.
Indeed, the fact that we are anxious about meeting that happiness can make us fail. Do you know why? The main reason is: what kind of future will it bring? What will I do once I have obtained the Grail? In this case, what will happen to me when I am in love? Will I live up to what is expected of me? And then, in the background, this nagging question: will I suffer? As a result, paralyzed by fear, we avoid situations that could make us match with a soul mate.
Bad vibes
Another cause of this inability to find love is our propensity to self-program for failure. We look at ourselves too closely and the self-criticism is harsh if not ruthless and…very exaggerated! As a result, because we know that we are worthless, ugly and uninteresting as possible, we give others a gauche and closed approach, we don’t dare to show off, we do too much or too little and… encounters are blurred. Other people end up thinking of us what we didn’t want them to think! And the worst thing is that we are the ones who serve it to them on a plate!
Very materially, you can’t sell a product if you don’t believe in it, if you think it’s full of malfunctions!
Bad pretexts
Not to meet love is also to be attached to the other for bad reasons and to leave it for bad pretexts. You fall in love with someone because he (she) is the absolute of someone else, he (she) likes him (her)? Then I should be very well with… Error!
One flashe on somebody because he (she) is going to take us out of our environment, of our greyness… error!
We flash on someone because he (she) looks… rich, elegant, beautiful… It’s up to you to put your qualifiers… Error! Since when does the tune alone make the song?
And also, from time to time, we leave for details or we leave too quickly, for reasons that are not. Sometimes on bad advice from the people around us, who are not in our place and sometimes are not so well-intentioned either… and that’s how hisWithout knowing it, we broke Cupid’s arrow and missed our meeting with love…
To meditate…
