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Why do we like bad boys? This explains the appeal of bad boys
How many times in movies have you fallen in love with the villain? And in life?
Bad guys have a special appeal, that of mystery but also of what you can’t have because you know it will hurt you, they are as dangerous as it is to walk on the edge of a cliff but at the same time they make you feel incredibly alive just like those long nights you never want to end.
In short, this is why, at least once in your life, it is normal (and almost necessary) to lose your head over a bad guy, if only to later learn to appreciate the good ones.
The important thing is not to get too hurt.
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They are of few words
The fact that they dose words makes them seem full of secrets, like something forbidden, something hidden that we absolutely must have access to, a secret that no one knows and that we absolutely want to know.
It’s probably just that they don’t know what to say but that’s a small, negligible detail, the silence makes them irresistible.They have the allure of the murky
There’s nothing you can do about it, if you liked Dylan and thought Brandon was an overly geeky, know-it-all loser you know that the allure of the rebel is something you can’t resist.
It may be that halo of danger surrounding him or that I ran out of gel this morning pout or that inscrutable air of a fatigued neuron but you just can’t escape the allure of the murky.
It must be that what you cannot understand attracts, a bit like moths with light.
Smells like an alpha man
The one who defends the pack, who would fight for you, who makes you feel protected like a real pack leader.
He probably wouldn’t fight for you, he’s just looking for trouble everywhere but you don’t care, you just smell the testosterone oozing out of every pore and you don’t understand anything anymore, you don’t even hear the grunt he utters instead of words, it sounds wonderful to you even though he’s probably saying something like Wilma give me the club.
They are unpredictable
Or more like they are unreliable, when you go out with them anything could happen, you know when you’re going out (if they don’t pack at the last) but you never know how and in what condition you’ll get home.
You feel like you’re going on a merry-go-round with lots of flashing lights, a merry-go-round you never want to get off, because it’s like on a boat, eventually you get land-sick after a while.
They keep you on your toes
The old tactic of pick up a woman and treat her badly, in the end you always get a crush on the ones who don’t answer the phone, you don’t know if they will show up for a date, or you are just never really sure they like you.
This unleashes a mountain-climbing goat-like tenacity in damsels, you cluck worse than a bull sees red and you absolutely want to please him, at all costs, it becomes a life mission.
They’re a transgression
They’re like a slice of cake when you’re on a diet, or an evening when you don’t say no to anything, they have the allure of what’s forbidden, what’s not good for you but what you finally want to have because having it triggers the adrenaline of dangerous sports.
As Lou Reed said, Hey baby, take a walk on the wild side, and that dangerous walk makes you want to Follow him everywhere.They make you feel alive
With good guys you feel safe, you know exactly what to expect, they will take you to the same restaurant, on vacation to relatives at the beach and Sunday lunch at mom’s.
The bad boy makes you feel alive because you never feel safe, always inside an adventure, a romantic book that you don’t know what ending it may have.
It’s like a new adolescence, full of torment and headshots.
You dream of the happy ending
The cruciferous syndrome that is ingrained in you makes you want to save it, and even if you don’t admit it to yourself, even if you tell yourself that you can handle it without losing your mind in the end, as in all tormented fairy tales, you dream of the happy ending.
You want to tame the wolf and turn him into an affectionate little dog, but are you sure you can do it?
